Is it normal if i'm more selfish when it comes to affection?

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I realized that I am selfish in the bedroom. I love it when he's doing everything to me, oral, fingering, sucking body parts, etc. I love affection! But I am just there enjoying the pleasure while he is enjoying my body. I mean isn't that what a dude loves the most? when he gets to have her body? Or do guys enjoy getting pleasure more than giving pleasure? Hmmmm, cause I do feel bad I want to be able to please the dude too but Ive always used the excuse that I am basically giving him pleasure by giving him my body, we both get what we want. I don't want to give a bj,just no. I rather just have sex with him than a bj. I have given handjobs but omg! this is for another submission, I'll do that one after! or else this one will be really long! So I love it when guys give me affection, isn't that already good enough for you guys?

No, I like pleasure more than making love to her body 1
Ya, I prefer to make love to her body a little more than her to me 2
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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I like those things too, but I also find it enjoyable to give.

    Take, take, take, but no giving: that doesn't seem fair to me.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    For some guys, yes. Me included, but I think I may be in the minority.

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  • Chillpill
    11 years ago

    In my experience guys like to have a responsive partner so that they know their efforts are appreciated. I think it's not just about what they do as such; seeing their woman get aroused is what really turns them on. Most people love to have that kind of effect on their partner. Showing your pleasure will probably encourage him even more to keep doing what he's doing without feeling short-changed.

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  • aussiewolf
    11 years ago

    well i think it should be 50/50. if you want certain things then you should be willing to give back. i know that my husband loves to be the dominant one in bed but he finds it a huge turn on when i take the reigns too. i also love being dominant in bed too. i guess it depends on the persons likes and dislikes. some guys find it a turn off when the woman is forward in bed.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I'm a selfish lover too. And my husband loves it. But it hasn't always been easy. Finding the right balance takes a lot of communication.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I would think it should be equal, but my inexperience doesn't allow for much insight on this...

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