Is it normal if i love looking foward to being by myself?

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It's called solitude. When an individual is fine with being by himself, that is the self-actualization right there. But I think I take it to a whole other level. I mean I love being by myself! Basically I love hanging out with myself. I do consider myself as my friend. Yes in the past, I wasn't the most popular or confident person ever which yeah could probably be the reason why I grew to love being with myself since I spent a lot of time alone. However, some people never grow to love being with themselves and want that group of friends still. I would love to be confident around a group of people and have them as my friends and actually last. But honestly, I've been in a few cases where I prefer to hang out by myself than go out with a group of friends. Recently, I've been going out with these group of girls and I've never felt this way before. I felt like I finally belonged and blended in rather than the weirdo in the group, the one that stands out, the awkward one, the one who talks and everyone is silent, etc. HOWEVER, lately its been weird unfortunately. I feel a little distant from them now which leads me to the conclusion that I will never have a group of friends and LAST. Part of the reason though why it probably feels distant is because I chose to stay away. Nothing personal, but I just started wanting to get back to hanging out just me. And I loved it! I missed it! But it cost me I guess to lose some potential good friends. I dunno...I hope it gets better and I feel accepted by them again because i am thankful for having them even though they probably think I don't like them right now since I've been distant.
So I like being alone. I start making plans what I'm going to do and its all by myself. I don't even feel entirely alone, I feel like there's another spirit around me. I am my own friend and I know it is a good thing to be fine by yourself but is it normal to love it this much? I sure love it when people are around and I still desire that group of friendship but after going through this with these group of people and me preferring to be alone, I figured maybe I'm just the type to not belong to a group and that's fine.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I love being alone too. I get to do whatever I want and don't have to worry about anyone else or take anyone else and what they want into consideration, because they aren't there! I also love being with people, too. People are great and they make me very happy. I'd hate to give either of these things up, and there's no reason for that to happen anyway. You can have both, you just need to find balance. It doesn't have to be one or the other, and I've never felt a major conflict between the two in my life.

    Like I said, you can have both. I think quite a lot of people live this way, myself included. Why limit yourself? You enjoy being a part of your group, and being a part of a group doesn't mean you can't have any alone time.:)

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    • DreamSpider
      10 years ago

      I'm this way, too. Most of the time I like to be alone but sometimes it gets to a point where I need a friend to talk to. Plus my family gets mad at me because they think I'm being rude for not spending time with them more... And my friends think I'm too distant.

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  • Maya05
    11 years ago

    You're an introvert. Perfectly normal. I love spending time alone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I also just thought of this recently what if being an introvert can be bad in terms of growing? Will you ever evolve if you're always by yourself? I thought that was a kind of a bummer.

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      • Maya05
        11 years ago

        That's a fair question. One that I don't know the answer to. The way I see it is, being an introvert isn't a problem on its own, but the way our society is built, makes it problematic. Our society seems to be catered towards extroverts. Schools are more and more forcing group activities and work as opposed to working alone (or even having a choice)and many work places are doing similar things. Hell, most jobs you need to be social and have connections to even be able to get the job. It's sad that introverts are seen as being weird or problem-cases when almost half the population is probably introverted to some degree.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I have thought about it that way before actually, it just didn't pop in my head at the moment. That's just how society rolls not life. I'm happy someone sees it that way too.

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  • Iamagirl
    11 years ago

    I hate myself, but I like being alone

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I didn't read the essay but I know that its normal to want to be alone, that just means you're an introvert plain and simple

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I love being with myself. I've been called stubbornly independent because of it. But I also enjoy the company of my friends. I think when you are comfortable with who you are other people can see that and will want to be around you.

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