Is it normal if i go for guys who challenge me?

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I am trying to work on myself and recently left my bf of two years because I wasn't growing with him. I felt too comfortable with him and wanted something more. I have a type which I think would challenge me and make me become the person I want to become. Ive been messing around with this guy and he is my type, so far everyone that knows about him knows how crazy I am about him. I feel like he would motivate me to become a better person. I want him so bad as an official bf but not right now since I just got off of a relationship but for the future. I can see us together and I can't wait. I wish we can be a little more serious than where we are now which is just like a fling basically. I want him to take me seriously like I see him. Part of being in a relationship is to actually like and adore the person you are with and I didn't have that with my ex. I wasn't satisfied, it wasn't challenging enough, etc. With this guy right now, I feel like I will grow into the person I want to be which is more active, hands-on, etc plus be with someone who is actually my type. I know you shouldn't rely on another person to be you especially for girls, you shouldn't rely on a guy to feel a whole but honestly having someone and depending on how they are stands as a strong motivation. If your bf/gf is lazy they could really impact you without you noticing. And on the contrary, my guy right now is always active and smart and I know he will motivate me to become better.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    "I have a type which I think would challenge me and make me become the person I want to become...I feel like he would motivate me to become a better person."

    Sounds like you need a life coach or a therapist more than a boyfriend. It's rather presumptuous and selfish of you to assume this guy would want to take on your personal self discovery journey. What if this new guy becomes injured, sick or consumed with deep depression? Will you leave him because he's not challenging you?

    Frankly, I think you sound like a very self absorbed, ego driven, manipulative, codependent, user type of little girl. If you want to be motivated to become a better person why not study religion and or philosophy. If that's not your cup of tea you could learn about Self-Reliance and try to motivate yourself. It's not fair to expect another person to do for you what you could do for yourself.

    P.S. I couldn't help noticing that you said the word "I" twenty-three times!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      WoW...this is comedy. Its hilarious how you took this to a whole other level. You sound so sensitive and bitter about every situation. I won't be surprised if you're stubborn about it and keep defending your point of view. Re-read it again and notice how I took into consideration about not depending on someone else.

      "...to assume this new guy would want to take on your personal self-discovery journey" "its not fair to expect another person to do for you what you could do for yourself" OMGGGG really? so exaggerated! You need to calm down and take a chill pill. Its about MOTIVATION to BECOME A BETTER PERSON, the total opposite of having someone else do my shit for me hence, lacking motivation. Not to mention "...what if the new guy becomes injured, sick or CONSUMED WITH DEEP DEPRESSION" ?!?! omg really?????????????? You are stating the opposite and need to stay away and go to sleep.

      Oh and "P.S." IIIIIIIII said "I" so many times because isn't this story from my own perspective? its going to be in FIRST PERSON. Once again, exaggeration. I think you're the one who needs to study religion or philosophy :D good luck with your life and bitter self.

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      • SHAKEStheClown
        10 years ago

        Damn, looks like someone hit a nerve there, Tiger.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Fa real and it wasn't me

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    What happens when you get really comfortable with this guy?

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      That's what I'm saying, bro!
      *snarts emphatically*

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  • Sheppard
    10 years ago

    I don't think you should rely on another person to grow.

    You may develop a habit of always leaving whatever relationship you're in because you wrongly want to grow and don't think you can with whomever you're with.

    Every relationship gets boring over time.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    I sharted bro

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      I snarted like a champ!

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      • robbieforgotpw
        10 years ago

        I heard it down here in the valley! Look up the burp snart on YouTube Rosie? YouTube grown ups 2 burp snart.

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        • RoseIsabella
          10 years ago

          Its alright. I think the beautiful thing about a good snart is when someone has a fart hanging and they suddenly sneeze so hard that the fart just pops out uncontrollably. My favorite snarts tend to be organic.

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          • robbieforgotpw
            10 years ago

            I agree with you about a good snart. did you see the YouTube video?

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            • RoseIsabella
              10 years ago

              Yes I did.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            My ferret lifts his tail and sharts.

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  • Sumi
    10 years ago

    Think you made the right choice. I am in the EXACT same situation (previous relationship, current fling, desire to grow) except I am a bro. Seconds after leaving the relationship life took off. Laziness is poison to the soul that craves progress.

    It sounds like you do pretty well on your own. Add the right love to the mix and you will fly.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yes, exactly! I totally agree with the last part you said. :)

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  • valisque
    10 years ago

    So if I get this right, judging from what you said. Say he by chance gets you where you want to be, then you're done with him too... Get new goals and another guy that can make it happen for you? Cause I'm sure by then, if you get that far, you'd be more than comfy with him.

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