Is it normal if i feel two different things?

I want to make friends and I want people to like me because I know I am a good person, I see the good in the ugly, I am friendly when you meet me, I stay away from your business, I love giving advice, etc. My friends who I know like me get to see the good side in me and enjoy my company. I love that they appreciate me for who I am. But when it comes to people who don't like me or at least feel that they don't, they bring out the ugly side therefore, they will never like me. It is proven in psych when you treat someone with your initial beliefs of them, then those initial beliefs actually come true. Example, you treat someone aggressively because you think they are this bad person then that person will respond aggressively proving your initial beliefs. Thats exactly what happens to me. When I know someone isn't too fond of me, they either start picking on me sarcastically because they don't want to be confronted or they're just like whatever around me as if they want me to leave. I've gotten conceited, stuck up, selfish, etc. None of that is freaken true ! until you bring it out on me because that's what I do. I start acting the way they think I am to mess with them. Its a way to release stress from it. I get frustrated that people don't like me for the wrong reasons which causes me to respond aggressively hence, proving their initial beliefs of me. So you see, that stops me from making all the friends I want and having people like me for who I am. I said before the ones who do know me like the person I am. It just sucks those who don't like me don't see who I really am. I am really misunderstood and when I get misunderstood I get frustrated and my nerves take over causing me to respond aggressively proving their initial belief of me. It sucks and I want to work on controlling my nerves better so they get to see who I really am and if they still don't like me then okay. I rather be disliked for who I am than someone I am not. I know not everyone is going to like you, but I only have a few who do like me. I am usually struggling with people who misunderstand me. Its like the world is against me for the wrong reason. You know when you have a certain tone of voice you're not aware of and gives off the wrong message to people? That's how I feel. Maybe because I am attractive I get looked as conceited and liking to dress up doesn't help I guess. I've heard my voice before on video and I hate it. I sound like a brat but saying simple things. And more. I don't know how to show who I am when I have those things literally blocking my way. I care so much because again I do care about having a lot of good friends. It sucks being a good person but people bring out the ugly side. Today, a lot of the wrong people get appreciated so I can't stand how people are so twisted.