Is it normal if i feel this way about him?

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I am in the worst situation and karma is going to bite me like bitch I already know it. Basically I'm cheating on my bf and its so weird to say that cause Ive always been against cheaters like what is the point. But ya...when you experience it its different especially since it depends on the circumstance. Regardless tho, I know its not okay.
But anyways, my bf and I have a weird status like we're not that official but we call each other bf and gf, were trying to work things out but obviously what Im doing doesnt help especially if he found out, wow like he would kill me then himself. So the other guy though..........he is the man of my dreams. What is absolutely crazy is he keeps doing everything Id want from a guy like literally it gets thrown to my face. I feel like God is testing me by throwing this guy to my face and see if my supposed "type" is what I really want and if its right for me. Like "here you have it so now what?" At the end of the day I know I'm gonna end up with my bf so why just stop with the other guy? because like I said he is the guy of my dreams and I wanna see what happens if it works out but so far, Ive been holding back because of my bf and I don't want to lead him on since he thinks Im single. I honestly feel like hes not even that into me but he keeps wanting to chill with me. He even admitted that he doesn't know how to express himself so maybe thats why I feel like he doesnt like me; he probably does but doesnt show it. So here's the thing, he seems like the guy of my dreams but I feel like Im not good enough for him. Its sucha bummer! Like heres my type of guy and I can leave my bf BUT Im not good enough for him. And my bf is not my type but he loves me and is my best friend. So who do I choose? who do I let go of? I also feel like if I let go of the other guy Im gonna be missing out on an amazing chapter of my life that can change everything for the better. Almost like a challenge but challenge and change is good.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    The "guy of your dreams" feeling will not last forever. You will date him, your boyfriend will think your a slut either because you cheated on him or left him for another guy and you will have fun for a couple months or so with Sir NewCock until you realize that dreams should be kept in your head and the grass is not always greener on the other side. You may never have another chance with your current boyfriend and if you do you will have a damaged relationship that will never be like it was before it was tainted by your lustful desires. If you feel like you need to go through that cycle, go for it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Maybe you're right about the whole "guy of my dreams" cause like I said as much as he is my type and has almost everything on my list, I still feel like I'm not good enough for him. With my bf, although he is not my type, he makes me feel comfortable and happy but I always felt like I can do better and he's thought that too. If he saw the other I know the exact words my bf would say: "see that's the type of guy you should be with, I'm just not for you." I can't wait to see my bf and go back to reality and genuinely realize that the other guy should just be kept as a crush if anything and no more.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    I don't believe in karma. I have done things you wouldn't believe if I tell. But when I met this guy and now I'm a very good girl. Just relax about all this, I bet that you'll not end with any of those guys and in a few years they'll be just memories. So just do as you feel.

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  • robbiethatshartsisamoron
    10 years ago

    Firstly, if you are so against cheating, why cheat? Why not break up with your so called 'bf' so u can fuck around with the 'guy of your dreams'? I personally think people cheat because it creates drama and exhilaration by sneaking around otherwise people would simply leave the one they are with then get with the 'other'. Anyways I totally agree with myboyfriendsbitch.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ya I believe some people cheat cause of that too but also because they want their cake and eat it too which is what I'm doing. I like both guys if I can smash them together into one I'd be fine. So ya obviously I can't have both and imma just end up with my bf. I know I sound like a total slut regardless of the fact that I'm aware of what I've done wrong and admitting it.

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      • robbiethatshartsisamoron
        10 years ago

        To be honest I respect you a hell of a lot for even being honest with yourself which most people can't admit. You don't come across as a slut to me as you seem to have genuine feelings for both guys where as a slut is just a girl who sleeps with almost every tom,dick and harry with no feelings at all, just because of an urge to do so and also there may be other factors involved such as money wise ect. Anyways I wish u luck, and all the best. Oh and I do think the right thing to do would be to tell your bf which is prob going to cause damage but what is done is done and the only way to salvation is honesty.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Thanks I appreciate that you can understand where I'm coming from. I do like these guys a lot but i have to let go of one or both maybe. But I'm scared for the future now and I'm just ready for karma. If I tell my bf he's gonna leave me it won't cause damage just that he'll leave me and that's it. I lose my best friend. And I'm trying to see how to end it with the other guy, he'll probably be shocked cause out of nowhere I just stopped but oh well.

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          • robbiethatshartsisamoron
            10 years ago

            you are welcome :) I believe that what ever choice u make will be the right one as everything happens for a reason. I also think that since you have a conscience and that u have acknowledge your mistake in this circumstance that karma will not play itself out too harshly on ya, so don't stress.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              I hope whatever choice I make is the right one too.
              And wow, I never really looked at it that way...I just thought karma is karma. But that makes me feel a little better, thank you so much :)

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    I think you should let go of both of them, you don't really know what to do and it doesn't seem like you are ready for this kind of thing. But, if you do choose, choose the one that makes you the happiest. But please, tell both of them the truth.

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