Is it normal if i feel like i want to win him?

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I've been talking and seeing this guy. To me, not only are my feelings present for him, but just what I see from him and know from him makes me want him even more. People see things differently including people. Idk if other girls see what I see. I would think its pretty obvious how attractive he is inside and out but I wouldn't be surprised if I hypothetically asked a girl what she thinks of him and she'll say "eh he's okay not that great." I would hope girls don't see him as great as I see him so I know for sure he's mine. But if girls do see what I see, I just fear losing him. I want to win him and be the girl who earned him. Only a king attracts a queen and vice versa. If I happen to be official with him, Imma definitely feel like a queen. I already feel like I deserve the very best because I am a good, genuine, and trustworthy person whos open minded and down to earth. Plus, I am attractive. Lets say I look like Kim Kardashian but more down to earth. So its not like I need a man to validate my worthiness, but I know I'll feel like I have what I deserve if we happen to be a real couple. I just know it in my heart that I have everything he would want, too. No other girl can love and treat him like I can. And if i happen to lose him, it'll be his loss but because I know I truly love him, deep inside I'll also feel like I lost him as opposed to letting my ego take over me and pretend like I'm fine. Even when he's a jerk to me, I still see him as a king. He has goals, he's smart, he's independent but the best is we have the same sense of humor. And thats what connects us the most. I will definitely be jealous of whoever has him. But if he ends with someone else, at least she should be somewhat better than me. If its just anyone, I'll feel some sort of frustration but at the same time, if thats what hes into then I'll feel like I'm not for him and be able to move on easier and faster.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Yo, don't compare yourself. If he ends up with a different girl it has nothing to do with you, obvi you're not going to think anyone else is good enough for him, but like you see him as perfect and your king he's going to see that in someone else and see her as his queen.

    Like you said you overlook the bad things because you love him but others just see him for what he really is, love is blind. So one day when he does meet another girl and you don't think she's good enough then respect that because he loves her and overlooks the bad, because that's what you do when you really like someone. He'll see all the great things in her like you see all the great things in him.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    I think this is just one of the anxieties that come about in being in a relationship with someone. I know my partners faults but I don't mind them because I know everyone has faults not because I'm hopelessly in love though. The best thing is to just let the relationship unfold as trying too hard can also jeopardize it. You should also consider whether he feels the same about you before thrusting your hopes too high.

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