Is it normal if i feel like i'm not good enough for my type?

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I have this problem where the type of guy I want is not looking for someone like me. I have an on and off again bf but he isn't my type yet he still loves and I love him. I'm comfortable around him and he accepts every flaw of mine which is hard to find. But like I said he is not my type and whenever my type comes along, I go crazy. For example right now I have been messing around with this guy who I have strong feelings for. He is my type, he makes me so happy but cause of who he is not cause he actually does things for me. I don't think he likes me as much as I like me which is such a bummer or else it'd be more magical. I do feel like once he gets to know me and my flaws he isn't going to accept them like my on and off again bf does. If he would be accepting like he does then wow, I would be in heaven. Its so hard to get over someone you really like because Im trying to get over him since he doesn't like me so why waste my time? but when you like someone so much its not easy to get over. He is my ideal guy, the guy I want to be with but I'm not his ideal type and the worst part is I believe he has a thing for my roommate. So I want to test it. One day were all gonna hang out and I'm just gonna do me and watch how they flirt with each other. I wouldn't care that much but it is embarrassing for me so I would feel pretty awkward. In general though, I don't think the type of guy I like would like me. I feel like he would challenge me and make me a better person. But without him knowing that, he will just figure out I'm not his type. With my bf, its not challenging enough where I feel like my flaws will always stay there and never improve because he is so accepting of them. I don't know what to do. Continue to try to win him over? or leave him and go with my bf?

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    So... your gonna do yourself while you watch him with your roommate?

    I don't understand why people have types. types. types. types. I never had a specific type of guy I had to date. Maybe if you change your type to someone who loves you and you are attracted to rather than making a checklist of positive attributes and choosing a mate based on a stereotype you have created, maybe then you can be with your type.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Continue to put off those who love and accept you for who you are and chase after the ones who aren't available and you'll end up alone.

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  • Maybeoneday
    10 years ago

    So what exactly is your type? and what type are you?

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Probably whoever is unavailable.

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      • Maybeoneday
        10 years ago

        Always is it seems

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        • RoseIsabella
          10 years ago

          It's sad really.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    Nice book

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  • Rick_Bawls
    8 years ago

    In other words, the guy you are currently with kisses your ass and is essentially a "beta chump." However, he really doesn't do it for you...

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  • Wuggums47
    10 years ago

    I'm fat so I'm not good enough for most types. The only people who have ever asked me out were mentally unstable. One of them thought I was a vampire.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    That's crazy talk! :) The people of your type are just as likely to find you attractive as the general population is. Not everyone of the one type is attracted to the same type, and just because you find one person extremely attractive doesn't mean they don't find you extremely attractive too.

    I think what you should focus on most is accepting your own flaws, though. You don't need to improve yourself, and you don't need someone else to accept them for you. What you need is to recognise that all flaws are either not really flaws at all, or are an intrinsic part of you that you can't change and shouldn't waste your time trying to. Accept and be proud of them.

    As for the relationship advice: never settle for someone who doesn't fulfil you.

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  • Sumi
    10 years ago

    "I feel like he would challenge me and make me a better person" vs. "Continue to put off those who love and accept you for who you are and chase after the ones who aren't available and you'll end up alone."

    Think it is a mixture of the two. Don't fear growth. If they accept your limitations in growth and still want to help you become a better person then keep them.

    Some people are moving too fast for others to keep up with. This only makes you feel like crap.

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