Is it normal if i cut off people and i'm fine with that?

I can't be friends with people forever. Its just a stage and eventually I get over you. Unless we don't hang out all the time then yeah we will be friends forever. I have like two good girlfriends and one best guy friend. I don't really hang out with my girlfriends all the freakin time. But when there is a time that I start hanging out with them non-stop, I realize and I get tired of them so I take a break from them. But they're close friends so I just take a "break." If they are just friends and we hang out and talk a lot and I start getting annoyed of them I just simply drift away. They might notice, they might not depending how often we talked and how close we were. But the point is I just cut them off and I'm done. I wish I wasn't like that cause I do enjoy the friends I make while they are not annoying but then I realize when they do get annoying, why would I want them in my life? Then I realize this happens all the time. Its like my friendships don't last. So I just realize its okay whatever. This is my life and I guess it'll continue like that. What can you do.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I thought you were talking about cars.

    Because when I am trying to change lanes and I have had my blinker on forever and this person just will not let me pass them but they won't speed the fuck up enough that I can get behind them or there is just no way I can take the lane behind them...

    I cut them off. For real. Fuck them. And they get pissed like what? I had my fucking blinker on, sorry I didn't send a ping to your fucking IPhone to let you know that while your absorbed in your pathetic little text message, there is traffic around you. My bad. My bad.

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    • LOL I like how you continued the conversation anyways.

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        But you didn't have to cuuut meee offf XD

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  • Cats

    Has anyone ever cut you out of their life?

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  • bodazzy

    Sorry but I don't think that's normal, it's like you buy friends like groceries, use them up then throw them away. You need help

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  • Gumball

    I feel similar to you. When I feel people are getting too close for comfort I move away. I can't deal with clinginess. I am fine with the occasional hangout but not when I see them every single day. I find being by myself or with others on days like that as solace. I just shield myself from getting too personal. It is horrible but I try not to just completely cut people off. I take a break from them to give them a chance to miss me and for me to miss them. It feels like relationships are rejuvenated afterwards.

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    • I also do that! I back off when I realize its getting too personal. I'm going to write another post about that cause this is different. Here I am talking about once people annoy me.
      I know it is supposedly bad to shield yourself from people but I don't feel like its bad. Some people do it cause of bad history with people, others (like me) feel better if they keep themselves to themselves.

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  • I bet you masturbate a lot and your friends keep interrupting you

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  • Holzman67

    Hmm to me loyalty is a huge part of friendship otherwise its not friendship at all, just acquaintances.

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  • PureLikeSnow

    Keep doing it and you'll be so desensitized that you won't give a shit about abandoning potential friends. People will know you as a coward that ran away from his conundrums, rather than to confront them and dismiss them entirely. That's how people fabricate demons; some so powerful that the guilt can eat you up. Tell your friends how you feel and they'll understand, whether they feel like moving on or not.

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  • dont you want something deeper?

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  • People are easily replaced.

    You walk past millions of people on the street, all of them as interesting as the last.

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  • devil-in-skirt

    i do the same and i like to be close with people for long time but i feel bored and i want new people if i deal with them every day it is boring even if i do like them .. that's normal i think that we " people human " r designed to deal with lots lots of people and it is important to take a break with people even if we really love them coz if we do not the relationship will be full of negative feeling!! and we will see only the negative things because of routine ! i even feel like i need a break from my family and just go out couples of days it makes me feel better when i come back home and make me more patient abt the things that can piss me off if i deal with them daily !

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    • I also get bored with people! I also like meeting new people and that's it. Don't want to continue just let the moment be and that's it.
      I have roommates who I got along with and we planned to live together the next year. But right now I am not feeling them anymore and sometimes I do. So I just figure I don't want to live with them anymore but we can still hang out. I need distance from them which they're probably noticing by now. Its like taking a break from them.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    You are obviously not fine with it.

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    • LostFounder

      You should stop posting demotivational stuff on questions. No one likes feeling insecure because you think it's fun.

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      • Terence_the_viking

        Yes mommy.

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    • Why do you say that?

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      • Terence_the_viking

        Because of all the effort you put into this post.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    Lol you sound like a bit of a bitch to me.

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    • I'm surprised there's only one of you who said that (so far) cause yeah I thought it came off as pretty bitchy. It can sound heartless but I just get annoyed really easily and my nerves take over me. Therefore, I can react like bitch sometimes. Story of my life.

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  • somerandomblonde

    It is normal to become annoyed with some behaviors, mainly when you spend a lot of time with the same people, you tend to notice them more and small details of their personalities will make you become "sick" of them. The fact that you cut those people off is absolutely normal, because if you feel that those people have nothing positive to contribute to your life there's no point forcing yourself to hang around them. And it's even normal to get annoyed with your close friends, because hanging around the same person for long periods of time makes you notice details you don't particularly like, and if you're away from that person for a while you'll miss them and those details won't seem so significant.
    I don't think you should feel bad about it. You just know who you like and who you don't, and you give the people you like a chance, otherwise you'd block them out as well. I think it's just a matter of you not wanting to force yourself to put up with people just to have someone around you, which is way more mature than being all nice and fake. When you like someone, you know how to deal with the things you dislike. There's nothing wrong with that..

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    • Hmmm yes I like that you appreciate how I don't act nice and fake just to maintain positive vibes. I really really REALLY wish there were more people like that who admire honesty. HOWEVER, I always thought it was more mature to deal with the person's flaws and not let it impact you in any way. Not exactly acting fake but just learning to deal with it. But even though I think that way, that doesn't stop me from cutting people off. Sometimes I wish I had the strength to look passed people's flaws but I don't. I am working on it here and there but who I am takes over in the end and that's cutting people off.

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      • somerandomblonde

        Well, but you shouldn't feel bad about it. You're not weak for not liking everyone. No one likes everyone! If you are able to care for some people and give them your attention and even still be with them when they annoy you (not cut them off, that is) it means there's nothing wrong with you. You're just selective with the people you choose to give your affections to.

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  • bristexai

    You're normal, I don't like to make friends and thats fine

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  • Lynlynlyn

    I actually reconnected with a friend just yesterday. We hadn't talked in months. I have one friend that I dropped completely 7 years ago because they were annoying and their family was weird.

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    • Yeah I start talking to somebody after a while because my "tiredness" of them is not there anymore. But itll come back eventually if I keep talking to them lol. So watch out, remember to keep your distance this time (if you dropped them for the same reasons).

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  • enginelugger

    I'm sorry, but did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours? ... Yes it's rude, unless the other person never shuts up!

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  • pacinoharmon

    Yeah I guess friendships end for similar reasons as relationships; people get tired of each other. Nothing wrong with taking a break from people, because some time apart can make the heart grow fonder. That's why I kinda like the idea of a long distance relationship.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I want to say I don't care for this sort of behavior but ironically I do the same damn thing. I even hold most of them dear in my heart but for whatever reason we drift apart. I think this sort of thing happens more often with women than men in my humble opinion. I find that lots of chicks have this awful codependent streak that runs through their friendships where they expect one another to conform to their expectations rather than accepting or rejecting each other as they are. If someone expects me to change myself for her friendship it's better to say bugger off. For instance, I'm through with being friends with women who dwell on their ex's or define themselves by their romantic relationship status. I recently started hanging out with tomboy types and they're more fun. Some are single, some are in relationships, most are straight but some are queer and yeah they talk about relationships but they don't get obsessive and dwell on things. So basically if someone drains me then I don't need to be around them; it's toxic for me and I have to move on.

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    • I could also be picky with friends, too. If I see that we probably won't get along or we don't have the same taste in things, I stay away before it gets awkward. So its just a hi and bye "friendship."

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      • RoseIsabella

        Yeah, I think the key is to not engage with people once I get those red flags about personality traits and character flaws. Also I'm trying to really take my time to get to know people. I don't need to hear someone's whole life story the first time I meet them nor do I need to share mine and the same goes for sharing dark personal secrets. I feel like over sharing with the wrong people creates weird bonds between people who are probably otherwise incompatible for friendship. I can have a lot in common with a person on a surface level but be incompatible because the level of boundaries I have to keep with the person are not conducive to friendship. I feel like I've been growing emotionally and mentally a lot within the past year and certain types of people I would have befriended in the past and related to I now find I can't seem to get far enough away from.

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