Is it normal if i can't open up to friends?

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I know it seems normal but I seriously can't do it. No matter if I have the chance to make besties for life, I don't like to let myself go and be vulnerable. Something about others knowing who I am, where I come from, all the deets gives me chills. I don't like people knowing who I am cause then they can use it against you. I fear betrayal and looking like an idiot like why didn't I go with my first instincts of not telling them everything. I wish I can be vulnerable though and let myself go to make amazing close bonds cause I see the potential but I'm scared.

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  • braintrip
    10 years ago

    i agree, i dont open up to people as well

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  • bemah
    10 years ago

    I don't, I'm never open with any of my friends, which makes me wonder if they're even my friends to begin with. But i think that in my case it's more of an insecurity thing, and a fear that in getting to close somehow I'll lose them. Meh, what do i know, I'm not a freaking psychologist.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Why do you think you will lose them once they get to know you? You just think you're not that great?

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      • bemah
        10 years ago

        Yeah, i guess so. Sometimes, if you get too close you both sorta realize you don't have anything in common, run outa things to talk about i guess. I'm a real weirdo, and most people aren't into the same stuff I'm into, so its better to just pretend. Better that than be a complete loaner and have absolutely no friends at all.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    I often choose not to.

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  • kawaiigurl
    10 years ago

    im having this same problem. i known my friends for 5 years and have never opened up to them and times like right now for me when i really need somebody to talk to they're not even an option and it sucks. i end up holding everything in which is so so bad

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yeah I think its really bad too but the way I make a decision is what's worse? Bottling things up or letting it go then feeling insecure and paranoid and possibly betrayed? So I make the big effort to hold things back. I rather feel safe in this case.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Sounds like they aren't your friends if they make you feel this way.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Sometimes I think I haven't met the right people so you could be right. Especially considering my ex I feel like I can tell him everything and not feel insecure. Besides my parents, he's the only one I feel safe talking to about anything. I always say how I wish I had more of hims in my life.

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