Is it normal if i can't explain why i love him ?

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Okay everyone that really knows me and is close to me like my mom, best friend, etc can clearly see that I am in love and never seen me so vulnerable. My moms seen me cry over him twice and she didn't look surprised cause she knew that those moments are bound to happen when you're in love. But when people aske why do I love him, I really can't find the reason. It sounds corny as hell but its true. I'll start bringing up like the qualities about him I like but I think to myself "you know, another guy can have those exact same qualities but I don't 'love' them." So its not his qualities but its just this "thing" about him, this chemistry or light that I instantly felt when we met. When I would tell my friends about him id say I'm in love but I knew it was too soon to feel that way so I was exaggerating but there was this feeling inside of me that was letting me know "you might not be sure of your love for him right now but he's certainly someone special..." And yup I can always count on my instincts, I have good judgement and I'm not those easy girls who just fall for anyone so when I was "exaggerating" I wasn't playing and knew there was something long term. Now here we are a yr and half later still involved with each other and we don't feel like we want someone else. I know I'm 100% for him, I honestly feel set with him like I found my partner, my match, my twin, my everything. Those qualities are just the icing on the cake.

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charli.m

9 years ago

I don't understand the need to "explain" love. It just is. Qualities etc are just things that you love about someone, not really why you love them. If someone asked me why I love my boyfriend, I'd think it was a stupid and slightly offensive question.

I love my boyfriend's eyes, his smile, his sense of humour...but those are just aspects of him, not the reasons I love him as a person.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Exactly, like I said, those qualities are just the icing on the cake and you can't explain what kind of cake it is. The feeling just exists.
  
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Zangyr

9 years ago

You don't need a reason. :)

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Spankz

9 years ago

I'm the same way. I'm not conventionally attracted to people, I can't identify if someone is attractive based on their looks, but the first time I met my boyfriend I was instantly physically attracted to him (which has never happened before). There was something about him that drew me in. I couldn't explain it. Now that we're together and someone asks me what I love about him, I'm at a loss. Yes, I love his humor, I love his smile, his eyes, his sarcasm, but it is SO much more than that. I have a bunch of male friends with a good sense of humor and a sarcastic tongue, but I don't love them. When you love someone there is just something about them that you can't explain and I think that means you are actually in love :) I would say 100% normal.

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Aliceee93

9 years ago

Love cant be described I don't think, you just feel it :) you know its there and that's all that matters.

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  9 years ago
  
  Ya that's what I thought :)) I was talking to him on the phone yesterday and couldn't stop laughing because idk everything he said and his voice made me happy and he's like why are you laughing ? And just straight up told him cause I'm excited to be talking to you right now. Its a feeling you don't have a reason for, but its certainly there.
  
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  - Aliceee93
    
    9 years ago
    
    It's cute :3
    
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