Is it normal if i am mad at my fiancé because of this?

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Hello. I'm gonna call my fiancé Josh. Yesterday, I told him that I have to go out of town for a business meeting, but that wasn't true. I wanted to surprise him on our anniversary, which is today. So, I asked my best friend to take him out for a lunch where she was never gonna show up, so that I can go there and make him a surprise. We met at 4:30 PM, and then at 5 PM he had to leave because he had to meet with a friend. It was our anniversary, I surprised him, and he left after a half an our. Of course, I got mad, but I haven't told him. I don't know what to do. I am really upset. Am I normal?

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  • charli.m
    7 years ago | pl

    You told him you had other plans, how was he supposed to know you were lying? So he can't make plans when you say you're gonna be gone? And then you expect him to ditch plans to suit you?

    Ugh. You brought it on yourself, you have no right to get mad. And if you're getting married, you need to work on your communication skills.

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    • BethanyYoung
      7 years ago

      I wanted to surprise him.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Turn your brain on: you DID surprise him and then he surprised YOU by having made other arrangements because of course he didn't know about your surprise, that's because it was a surprise!

        It's understandable you're disappointed because you didn't get exactly what you wanted, but what's the point of being angry with him about it? Maybe he was angry he believed you'd arranged something else out of town on the anniversary?

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      • charli.m
        7 years ago

        Yes, I get that. But your communication and planning skills are atrocious.

        If you had, perhaps, asked him what his plans were for that day, then you would have known that he had made other plans, seeing as you had told him you wouldn't be there. Do you expect him to sit around waiting for you whenever you're not there?

        Additionally, lunch at 4:30? Really? If you had planned to have lunch at, I dunno, lunch time?? Then you could have had a few hours.

        You are being completely unreasonable being mad at the poor fucker. Unless there are other details that you've left out in your poor communication, then the blame lies with you. And I bet if the roles had been reversed, you'd be pissed with him.

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        • BethanyYoung
          7 years ago

          Yeah, guys. Y'all right, I wasn't thinking straight when I did that, but I apologised. Sorry for my bad english, I'm not native. :) it's all good now, and we gotta work on our communication skills. Thank you!

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        • BethanyYoung
          7 years ago

          And also, I don't get why are you so mean? I just asked a question

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          • charli.m
            7 years ago

            I am blunt and have low tolerance for stupidity and spoiled brats who have tantrums over trivial shit.

            "Mean" is getting angry at someone for something they didn't do. Straightforwardness is telling that person without pulling punches.

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            • BethanyYoung
              7 years ago

              No, I was not mean. If you read my question one more time, you'll see that I said " I haven't told him ", because I knew it would have been stupid to start a fight over this. I just wanted other people's opinion.
              Mean is telling someone that they are stupid over a question they put online, when you don't even know them.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Can't really blame him for this. He just didn't know.
    It's normal that this bothers you, but it's neither yours nor his fault. You took a risk and it didn't work out. It happens.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Exactly

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Haha nicely done props to your fiance.

    Surprise that back fired.

    Ding a Ling.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    This whole thing sounds bizarre. Definitely need to work on communication and expectations.

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  • WinterStormGuy_Of_Feb9,1968
    7 years ago

    Yes it's normal for us to be upset or mad when
    we are dating someone. Maybe you should of told
    him that being it was your anniversary that you
    wanted to spend more time with him.

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  • Fugazi,again
    7 years ago

    Not normal

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  • sillygirl77
    7 years ago

    Somehow I couldn't quite follow that story

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    • you_go_glen_coco
      7 years ago

      She lied to him by telling him that she had plans out of town, so he made plans of his own.
      Then she had her friend lure him to a predetermined place to have dinner with him but his gf (the OP) was there waiting for him. He stayed for 30min and left because of the plans he made.
      Now she (OP) is mad at him because he didn't cancel his plans for her.

      BUT

      Here is my question :

      Why did he even agree to go meet her friend for lunch? And when he showed up and her friend wasn't there, would he also have left so quickly if her friend was there?

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      • you_go_glen_coco
        7 years ago

        AND

        I think this is all part of Stefano Dimera's evil scheme

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        • sillygirl77
          7 years ago

          haha you watch Days of Our Lives too? Thanks for the summary. I'm still confused why he had a second bunch of plans if he was supposed to be having lunch with her friend?

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    Derp

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  • maaximum
    7 years ago

    He had to go bang his other gf

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    • dumb_guy
      7 years ago

      That's an intelligent theory. You're a smart guy.

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      • maaximum
        7 years ago

        Not say he should just saying hes prob a cheat

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