Is it normal if i am feeling this way about being gay/lesbian?

I'm not lesbian but I just go with the flow. Yeah plenty of girls get drunk and make out with each other and they are straight. But I feel like its different for me. When I get tipsy and see a beautiful girl I just want to go up to her and tell her she is beautiful and eventually we kiss. Ever since a little girl, I have hit on sexy women. My older brother even thought I was lesbian. He passed away but I'm sure he's looking at me now like "I knew it." Like I said I am not lesbian, I love guys and I love their attention. But with this mindset of mine in terms of girls, its been getting me into trouble the past few weeks. I have a bi-sexual roommate and we've been going out every weekend. She knows where I stand with gays. I believe we're all free and there's no label. As we get drunk, yeah we might get a little touchy like teasing each other she can't have me cause in society I am "straight." That still doesn't stop me though from revealing a lot things I mean after all, drunken minds speak sober thoughts right? So I just blabber out how I feel about girls when I am drunk or start flirting with my roommate. I think she is starting to get annoyed though because she is probably confused like am I straight or bi? I want to say I am straight but I have these thoughts of women and when I'm drunk, they come out. It can be dangerous to the point where I kind of don't want to drink anymore with her because each time we get closer and that's like over the boundary of being roommates. Plus our other roommates kind of discovered our little bond we have last night. And of course its all cause of me cause I say some revealing things and do some revealing things. I believe my roommate probably has a crush on me though and Im just instigating it. I don't think Im lesbian cause I don't take it that serious when Im sober. Like Im not looking for a girl to date. I guess you can call me curious? But really curios. I don't know.

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  • xTheShadyCharacterx

    In my opinion you are bi sorry but its the truth embrace it. I know plenty of lesbians that still go out with guys. I think you should go with your feelings.

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    • Don't say sorry because it is not like I am denying it cause I'm against it. I said I don't believe in labels so obviously I am open to the subject. Now personally, I am just lost where I stand. I probably am bi but what stops me is I don't plan on dating girls, I just think they're beautiful (in particular of course, some girls are just annoying and blah).

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        You are trying to deny the fact you like women but you do. Stop playing with peoples heads already. If you are gay its fine. If you are bi its fine but don't go kissing people if you are not interested and then say you are straight.

        It is really messed up to get peoples hopes up. You are lying to them and lying to yourself. It is not ok and it ruins things for people. You cant have sex with a female and next day say "Im not into girls sorry" do you realize how much that messes with someones head?

        Who KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE? If you don't think you are gay or bi stop making out with women! Unless those women knows its just sex and they have the same motive. Do you have any idea how much that hurts people? You are really messed up and inconsiderate to people beside yourself.

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  • GreyWulfen

    "plenty of girls get drunk and make out with each other and they are straight."

    No, they are not.

    You're clearly bisexual but afraid to be it. You are who you are - no one will blame you for being bisexual.

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    • The_Gnome

      I think you meant bicurious, there is no way she is bisexual (yet) as when she is sober she doesnt feel that way. Plus sexuality is a scale not something that is either black or white... You‘d do well to remember this

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      • GreyWulfen

        Bi-curious is basically the same thing as bisexual, but mostly with a strong tendency for one gender.

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  • The_Gnome

    Speaking from experience:
    It appears you are going through a revalationary stage where you may (finally) discover what your sexuality is. I believe that whilst experimenting is a good idea that what you are doing to your bunkmate is torturous and you must stop. I have been in her situation before and it can be confusing. You should discuss with her about what you are thinking and how you are feeling, then begin experimenting if you believe you are ready, but ease in slowly. As you said above the drunk mind speaks sober thoughts, it is possible your inhibitions are misguiding you to feel confused.

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  • q1w2e3

    You are straight. Don't now to peer pressure about how gays are normal etc. Live a normal life, have beautiful kids and loving husband.

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    • GreyWulfen

      You can live a "normal" life as a "non-straight" person, too...

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    • RomeoDeMontague

      She is not straight if she is having it with chicks on the side. Yet tells the world "No I am straight I swear. I just slept with that women since it was fun". That is messed up for anyone to do for any reason. That is very dishonest and it is using people.

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