Is it normal i wouldn't want to disrespect a woman by having sex with her?

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I grew up with an EXTREMELY negative view of sex. Sex was a horrible sin that got you sent to Hell and women didn't even want to have sex anyway, they just did it to please men who are, of course, ravenous, evil, sex beasts (for all people are sinners who have kindled the wrath of God and worthy of eternal torment). I feel like this view impacted my relationship with women. I'd love to be in a relationship with a woman, but I don't want to do anything to hurt her or disrespect her, but I also would like to have sex-not to do anything awful, just because it feels good and I'd like to make a woman I loved feel good. Is that normal?

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  • sweetone89
    2 years ago

    If guys would stop gossiping about women, you best believe you'd all be having more sex.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    You have a lot of unlearning to do, these deeply unhealthy views of sex are going to make it impossible for you to have a functioning sexual relationship.

    Approximately 99% of adults feel sexual attraction, it’s not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of.

    That includes that approximately 99% of women feel sexual attraction, the myth that most women are asexual and feel no arousal is rooted in misogynistic ideas that sex is all for male pleasure.

    Mutually pleasurable consensual heterosexual sex is a real occurrence and not “a sin”.

    I strongly suggest working through this before you try to date. Good luck to you.

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  • sweetone89
    2 years ago

    Just an fyi...women usually love sex. It feels great. We are just conditioned to pretend we dislike it for fear of being labelled a slut or whore.

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  • KholatKhult
    2 years ago

    This is something you worry about after you’ve started talking with someone. You’re being too anxious and looking at a ‘potential future issue’ that you’re going to spook yourself away from learning that this won’t be a problem.

    If your worrying about sexual issues is stopping you from dating, you’re only creating fictional problems in your head. If you’re looking to hookup or have casual sex, just be clear and straight forward that that is your intention, if she is into that she will be clearly and verbally on board.

    I read somewhere that about 60%-70% of men are unable to pick up social/emotional cues correctly, as compared to about 10%-20% of women. So if you’re nervous about that, it’s pretty understandable. Just communicate VERBALLY, so nothing is misunderstood.
    If she digs you enough she may lead the way a bit, not a huge deal.

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