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I have a 6yr old and 6 month old. I work a little over part time. My childrens father is a full time engineering student who doesnt work. I dont drink or party and am a good mom. I am not on any public assistance and cant afford daycare. My bf always incenuates im lazy because I work part time.Is it normal to only work part time when you are a mother of young children?
If everything is taken care of, your children are fed, housed and loved I don't see the problem. I'm sure your children appreciate your presence and attention more than they would fancy toys or something and being watched by strangers (especially the 6mo). Unless you're leaving some vital details out, your bf is being a prick and he's no better than you. Being a parent and working part-time = working full time + overtime.
Thank you for the support.Detsils were not left out and I feel the same way you do.I was just starting to doubt myself and where I stand.He seems to think im just hanging out all day at home but,im very attentive to their needs and they are very happy I think that should be factored in but,its like talking to a wall.thanks again its good to know someone else doesnt think im crazy
You are working full time, you're just not getting paid for the mothering component of your work. He's the lazy one and also apparently ignorant of what it takes to care for children, which in my opinion makes him useless as a father and as a boyfriend
Your post suggests that you are working part time rather than full time because full time would require you to pay for daycare, and the expense of the daycare vs what the extra hours would pay wouldn't make financial sense. If that is the case, then it is illogical for you to work full time. Why go to work just to give the money to someone else to care for your kids?
It seems tome that this 'boy friend' is an asshole. Why isn't he at least taking care of your kids at night while you could be working. An even better idea is that the mooch get himself a part time job to help you out.
If you are counting on him supporting YOU after graduating and getting a good job, this is rarely how it goes. More likely he'll just move on with no thanks for all the help and support you gave him when he needed you.
full time would be optimal but I don't know if I would say part - time makes you lazy? I also don't know your day to day life or relationship dynamics so? it's hard for me to give you a real answer . If working full time is possible , go for it but if not .. do what you can to survive .