Is it normal i wont do this for my ex

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So me and my ex of 4 years broke up but still spoke every day, after a few months of being broken up I had a sort of week long fling with this guy. My ex knows about it and we're kindof getting back together (its very complicated). He wants me to delete the guy I slept with off facebook, cuz sometimes he comes up in my feed when I'm at his house etc. He feels really strongly about it. I really love my ex, I want to make things work with him, but I just really dont want to delete this guy. If he'd deleted me after we slept togetherI'd have felt really shit and wonder what the hell I'd done to piss him off so much. I mean its like saying I cant even tolerate seeing his statuses once in a while. I don't talk to him but he was really nice to me and we parted amicably and I just feel it'd be so rude to delete him like that with him not knowing why, its not his fault he's in the middle of this stuff with my ex. is it normal that I wont delete him even though my ex feels so strongly about it? What should I do?
(I should add that I have done stuff like this for my ex before, for example this summer I got set up with a guy by my friend, he was a nice guy and really into me and he started messaging me on facebook, my ex got pissed off so I deleted him without explaining why, the guy was really upset and complained to my friend and i felt pretty bad about it)

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  • Bbygirl.
    13 years ago

    I don't think you should do anything he tells u too if he's just your "EX", but as for this fb thing if it's for the sake of him becoming your BF again, then Yes you should delete him. When You're ready. It really seems like you're not ready to cut this fling out of your life. If you wanna explain the situation to him (the fling) then do it. Better you do it NOW & take some time while you & your ex are broken up,
    then for you to delete the guy, get back with your ex & ALWAYS have it on your mind what your fling might be thinking.. Ect. It'll make it worse, get everything off your chest before u get back into your relationship with your ex.

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  • Keng
    13 years ago

    If you really love your ex and want things to work out, then delete the fling. Assuming that you truly do love your ex, no one else's feelings should matter but your ex. If you're really, really worried about upsetting him, send him a message explaining that you can no longer have him as a friend, and then click the delete button. Good luck =)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Thanks for the advice, I already said to my ex that I'll delete him if I can message him and explain why, but he said no he doesn't want me to talk to him though :\

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago

    see if there down for a 3some.. & by them i mean you me & tommythecat ^_-

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  • starvingwithana
    13 years ago

    id do anything for my old boyfriend. he was the love of my life. i could give a shit less about anyone ive ever fucked since then. hell get over it youre not that good just delete him.

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  • emilio
    13 years ago

    Going back with ex never works... + if he wants to change anything in your life hes bad news. Its very important to girls to have their emotionnal life untouched. Like its normal for all girls to have a box with all the shit they got from previous relations, photos, objects, gifts, flowers etc. In fact its ultimatly important for girls.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    your ex should have forget all about you and move on.

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  • Jaynalynn
    13 years ago

    seems to me like you want to hold onto facebook guy just in case your ex screws you over again....if thats what happened anyways....

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  • cherrytomato
    13 years ago

    why cannt you back together with you ex if both of you still in love?But at the moment he still is your ex, if you happy to stay in touch with this guy on facebook then you should do it. He is your ex, and you cannot get back together right now, you should move on, right?

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  • joker47
    13 years ago

    dont tell the guy why, you are lowering you bf.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Maybe you should try talking to your ex about how you feel about this. Or maybe your ex would agree to let you message the guy if your ex can read what you say ?

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    You should never date someone twice. If it failed the first time why would you think it would work the second time?

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