Is it normal i wasn't invited to my best friend's funeral?

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Unlike my last story, this is serious story that still bugs me years later. I was in France my third year at LSU and I got news my best friend Chris had died in a car wreck 4 months ago. The funeral followed shortly after the accident, to which I wasn't given any invitation to. Its not like my friends or family couldn't have called me, explain the incident, and have me fly back to attend the service. So I don't understand why I wasn't notified of this happening until many months later. Is it normal that I was treated like this? Because I feel very offended that a friend of mine for over a decade passed without my knowledge of it.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    I'm so sorry about your friend. I can't even begin to imagine how awful and angry you must have felt.

    Not even your family told you? Now that I find very odd- did you ask them why you were never told?

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  • whatswrongwithme22
    11 years ago

    I'm very sorry about your friend. And I don't know why they didn't tell you, maybe they were afraid that you would be really upset? I don't think it's normal that they did not tell you though.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    I'm sorry about your bestfriend.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I don't know why this happened to you (maybe it was an oversight, although it seems a big one). It's not uncommon though. None of my side of the family were invited to (or informed about) my great-grandfather's funeral. It only came out years later that there was a codicil in his will which said, "If you don't come to the funeral, you get nothing in inheritance". Families are sneaky.

    Similarly, a friend died in mysterious circumstances a few months back. The family shut up shop and refused to tell anyone what was going on. When his body was released by the police, there was a quick funeral which nobody was invited to. We still don't know what's gone on.

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    • jaketrek
      11 years ago

      dude I am so putting that in my will! it will be something like "if you don't come to the funeral, and don't let someone know the legitimate reason for the delay, then you don't get any inheritance

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        As long as you're aware that some of your family will neglect to tell the rest of your family that you are actually dead, so they get a bigger share of the booty. You could have a funeral attended by just one person.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Perhaps, they didn't want to cause you emotional trauma. The whole thing is weird. You really need to ask them why you weren't invited or at least informed.

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