Is it normal i was obsessive over friends in school?

Hi

I found an old report from nursery the other day and it said I rely on 2 boys and don't play with other children. I am female by the way. So I was wondering if this was normal at that age? I remember only ever playing with these 2 boys in nursery, in a way it was a bit like an obsession I also remember getting jealous if anyone else spoke to them.

After nursery the same thing happened in primary school although neither of those 2 boys went my school, I always seemed obsessed with making friends with a certain boy or 2 and neglected to make friends with anyone else. I still spoke to the other children but I never really played with them as friends. When I went into year 2 I suddenly made friends with another boy who had been in my class and we were best friends for years. Again this became obsessive by both of us really, any outside staff who came to the school always assumed we were related we were that close. This didn't really continue outside of school though since my parents never let friends come over or allowed me to go and play out with friends. However whenever we were in school we did everything together and were inseparable.

Unfortunately my parents often told me to stop playing with boys and tried to force me to play with girls. They would often shout at me and tell me off if I was with the boys. I think this made me resent making friends with girls which would have happened naturally as I got older such as in high school. Instead it made me try to cling to the boys I played with in primary school and since they grew out of playing with girls I was often left alone, particularly in high school. Apart from my best friend who I think was being told to play with boys by his parents, we stayed friends in high school but later drifted apart anyway and when he came out as gay his personality changed a lot and we just didn't mesh as well as we had in primary school.

I always seemed drawn to playing with boys even though I didn't play the rough and tumble games with them. The boy who became my best friend was quite shy and preferred to play with girls than boys so I don't think it was the type of games the boys played that attracted me to playing with them.

At the time it all seemed normal but now when I look back I feel like I was strangely possessive over whoever I declared as my friend and I wondered if this was all normal.

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48% Normal
Based on 27 votes (13 yes)
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  • LAR23

    It's not completely normal, but I don't think it's anything super weird either. Different people have different preferences over how selective/closed-off their friend group is and the type of person/people in it.. I'm pretty possessive of my friends as well, but that's because I have a bad history when it comes to friendship, though I generally manage to keep it to myself =w=

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  • Pika-girl

    Well, you're yourself. You chose your friends because they're YOUR FRIENDS. No one could really force you to do anything if you don't want to do it. So, you stick with them.

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