Is it normal i want to use ivf?

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I have a genetic mental disorder that causes so many problems not just to the brain but other parts of the body. I had been through a lot in my past life and still struggle some what today.

It takes my thought process longer than most people, my hearing is rather sensitive (which I can't block sound), I'm horrible at focusing and so on...

But the thing is that there is a 50% chance of me passing it on to my children. If I do pass it on they say that the child would most likely have it more severe than the parent, which I. Which I have a feeling they would be autistic.

I want to have my own children if I ever choose to. I don't want to adopt a child because they truly wouldn't feel as special to me as my own child that I would create.

But they have it where you can use in vitro fertilization and something else. They remove the genes of the disorder from the egg in a dish.

I know that quite a few people on this site probably oppose of this but I just wanted to get your thoughts. I remember someone had put a topic of disagreeing with IVF. I truly don't if it really helps the parents have children; well parents that can take care of the children that is.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I don't like the thought of IVF myself, but then again, the thought of any surgical instruments touching my body makes me squeemish as hell.

    It sounds normal and it is nice to hear someone that cares about it enough to consider the damage that poor genetics can do to a child. I say that if you're going to have kids, you want to eliminate as much risk as you possibly can and if in doing so, you must go through with IVF then I say it's the smart thing to do. Many women do IVF because their need for children goes beyond the emotional into the biological... it's nothing new and I hope that it works out for you should you ever go through with it.

    All I see here is that you wish to do what's best for your kids. Nothing wrong with that.

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  • NocturnePonyFan
    11 years ago

    That's REALLY sad that an adopted child wouldn't be special to you. You sound very selfish.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      What is wrong with wanting to create my own child? An adopted child isn't really my husbands and my own child becuase it most certainly doesn't have our genes.

      Also I didn't say an adopted child isn't special but like I said above it isn't as special to me as "our own" child.

      Do you know how hard it would be to adopt a child for myself or maybe for you? I mean there are other families out there that are more than willing to adopt a child but there are many out there that it's just not for them because it is hard. I myself understand why it would be hard for someone to adopt when there are other options to have a child that they will appreciate too.

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      • NocturnePonyFan
        11 years ago

        Look, I'm sorry, adoption is just a real sticky subject for me. I was adopted, and I can't imagine my mom deciding against it because she wants "her own". Personally, I think IVF is selfish, but hey if you want to, nobody's stopping you. IVF can be just as expensive and just as time-consuming as adoption. There are so many wonderful, amazing kids waiting for a home, but they're being left behind because of people who want "their own" child. Like an adopted child isn't "theirs"...I do apologize, but that attitude is quite offensive to me.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          You don't need to be sorry by any means because you do have your own opinion and I'm just being honest with my opinion is all...

          I know you had been through the process when you were a little kid or baby and I don't know what it was like but I just want you to know that there is a different emotional feeling when adopting a child than having your own biological child. You can think it's selfish all you want.

          And you just never know maybe I would adopt a child or choose not to have children at all... which would be hard but both of these situations are just very costly especially when you aren't that financially stable.

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  • DiamondGirl
    10 years ago

    I think u should not do it, Have your own baby, it will b more precious to you. Maybe there's a chance it will skip a generation or two. But I'm not crazy about thangs that r not natural. Something could be wrong with the genenticlally engineered one. Does'nt Sound Safe. Gives me Bad JuJu! thinkin about it.

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  • DiamondGirl
    10 years ago

    WTF is IVF?

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    • asasasa
      10 years ago

      stands for In Vitro Fertilization. A process by which an egg is fertilized by sperm outside the body.

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      • DiamondGirl
        10 years ago

        ok, Thanks, didn't know that,

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        • asasasa
          10 years ago

          You are welcome.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Sounds normal. Why wouldn't you want the chance to give your kid a happy normal life if you have the opportunity. I say do it if you really feel that is what you want. Who are we to judge you.

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