Is it normal i want to see my brothers dead body

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Well my brother who was 15 died a few days back and they won't let me see him but I'm having such a hard time dealing with it I feel awful it's all my fault to that he's dead. What happened was I built an ultralight aircraft and he had driven it once before with me and by himself a few times I told him that when I wasn't there not to touch it but he went and flew it without refueling it and now he's dead all because I didn't refuel it before I left I feel awful and I want to see him to see his face one last time before they burry him is that normal? And Also feeling guilt for it?

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  • SuperBenzid
    11 years ago

    I think it is normal to desire to see the body. I have seen my brother's corpse and I would advise against it though. When the body lies deathly still you realize the body left behind is just a shell and it is the last thing you remember of them. It is better to avoid because it becomes the last thing you remember of them.

    Also what you described is not your fault.

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  • lufa
    11 years ago

    It was your brother's fault for flying without your permission, not yours. He paid the ultimate price for his mistake.

    I agree with the others here-no need to see his corpse-it'll just leave you with a bad memory.

    I don't look forward to the death of my parents or anyone around me but we all have to cope with such loss. I lost someone close to me last year, but life goes on.

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  • Orangebean
    11 years ago

    You have survivors guilt and you need closure. Yes it's normal. Just don't be hard on yourself Hun.

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  • Pwnfacertwn
    11 years ago

    Same thing happened to me last time I built an ultralight aircraft.

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  • reindeer
    11 years ago

    Of course its normal. I can't imagine why they wont let you see him though.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Yes, both are normal. This is why people often opt for viewings of the body at funerals. Your guilt is natural, however, he made the decision to defy your wishes and he knew the danger and took it upon himself. It wasn't your fault. Accidents happen.

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    • sisterlover
      11 years ago

      I go to random funeral just to see dead bodies. I'm cool like that

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      • World-roaming193
        10 years ago

        Thats cool bro

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  • Lune
    11 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time but it is not your fault at all and I'm so sure that no one blames you. SuperBenzid is right though, the body really is just a shell so I'm sure it's best to have your last memories of him as bright ones. Everything you're feeling is normal, but no one would want you to make things harder for yourself, it is in no way your fault. Things will get better for you, I promise.

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