Is it normal i want to drop my father?

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My father left me when I was 10 years old with my mom and her new boyfriend which now is my stepdad. 8 years have past and I haven't got a visit from him, nor does he want me out there. Ever since he moved he's a completely different person, *a fucking bum now* we text and call, but on his time which is very rare. I know I sound like a typical girl with daddy issues but I'm to the point where I'm just through. 8 years is enough,and 9 is approaching. I'm thinking of dropping him completely out of my life, no matter what I'm done. Am I making the right choice? I'm not exactly even sure if he'd give a shit..

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    My Dad left when I was 6 and Mom was a shift worker so I was raised by the TV and apart from:
    drug addiction
    alcoholism
    poor education
    unable to hold down a job
    falling in love with hookers
    depression/anxiety
    no friends
    suicidal thoughts
    no access to my Son
    ...I'm doing great :)

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  • Gooddaddy
    1 year ago

    Careful, I had a similar upbringing and found out years after the event that I was only ever getting told one side of the story. My mom even went through the whole illegally attempting to change my surname , moved 1000 miles away from my father and didn't allow any contact. Growing up I never knew any of this and I can see how the pain from this destroyed him. All I encourage you to do is find all the facts out first and look at the situation though the eyes of every single person.....and then decide and follow your heart

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  • poon__jabber
    9 years ago

    don't let your father's douchiness make you feel bad about yourself. it sounds like your step dad is more of a dad. If he ever comes around you should just tell him that his actions spoke volumes as to how much he cared about you.

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  • CloverFish
    9 years ago

    It's normal to sorta care what your biological 'father' thinks and feels about you, but it's pretty normal to want to drop him out of your life. If he's causing more stress than not, it's probably better that way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I have dropped my dad too! Normal. You are even more validated than me.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    If its causing you that much stress, do whats best for you and your mental health. He has hurt you deeply already so let him be the one sweat it when it comes to giving time to you. If he makes zero effort, i dont see why you should make all the effort.

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  • Thatgirl919
    9 years ago

    Unless he is actually making an effort.. I would save myself the stress and the trouble of that. Keep in mind all dads still want to be apart of there children's lives

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