Is it normal i want to be physically closer to my friends?

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I wasn't a very touchy person when I started at this school, but now I kind of want to be one, because I want to hold hands or hug or whatever the other ppl do. But I'm finding it hard to change because everyone has preconceptions about who I am, especially my best friends, whom I've known for 4 years.

Now I want to be physically close and be able to hug them or lean on them but I've never been that kind of person, so it's hard to change it, both for myself and for them. But I want to change because touching is therapeutic and I just want to be able to physically contact people.

How do I do it? Do I start with my really close friends? What if they don't let me because they are uncomfortable with the sudden change? I tried a bit and the response was rather negative. What should I do? D:

Do it gradually 19
Yes, just go ahead, it's fine, anyone is fine 11
With acquaintances 0
With your closer friends 16
No, why would you want to do that? 4
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  • pandas
    11 years ago

    I was like that,I was always the quiet kid of all my friends and i hated physical contact. I couldn't stand people even leaning on me, I would literally shrug them off. But now i hug them, hold their hand and even kiss them (on the cheek)every now and then. they seem cool with it. But you might want to start doing it gradually. And it depends who you start with.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    Rape them, then everything else will be no biggie

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    It's funny how people have no problem with affection between family members even when said members are known to harbour mutual dislike or hatred toward one another, but if someone's affectionate with their friends or wants to be, some people see it as crossing the line.

    I think some people confuse affection for something sexual or even romantic, when it's just the basic human need for physical closeness with the ones we care about. I'd say these types of people feel ashamed of wanting to be physically closer to their friends. Admittedly, if you're not used to it, it can be difficult to become accustomed to.

    I believe that the closer you are with somebody, the more familial your relationship can become. Just because you don't share genes doesn't mean you can't really think of and treat someone as family. Some people's friends make a better, longer lasting, and healthier family for them than their real one, which is awesome and kind of sad at the same time.

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  • Wendell
    11 years ago

    I do it, everyone does. Or am I just weird too?

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  • jaolpd365
    11 years ago

    ask for a hug .always ask before you touch any one

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