Is it normal i want sex at night, but my gf only wants it in morning?

I've been with my partner for about 6 years now, and we hardly ever have sex any more. (I won't ask if that's normal, as I'm sure it sadly is!) But we do both want to, it's just that she's never interested at night, when we go to bed - which is when I get horny. She just wants to go to sleep, so I get frustrated and end up having an unsatisfying wank. She sometimes wants to have sex in the morning, and I'll go for it, but only because it's better than no sex at all - in the morning I'd prefer a shower and a coffee! Afternoons are no good, we're either both working or too busy with other stuff.

So, is it normal, and any suggestions how to fix the situation?

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64% Normal
Based on 76 votes (49 yes)
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  • You'd better keep satisfying her or she'll sneak out some mornings and bang a different guy.

    I've literally seen ads for this online.

    Girls/women saying they want secret discreet morning sex and can come to 'you'. Must keep secret.

    I've seen ads saying she's bored of her guy because he won't have morning sex so she wants to fuck other guys in the morning.

    I don't see why you've got a problem with morning sex, it's great and it's fun.
    If you stop jerking off and aren't fucking at night you'll start to want morning sex because it will be the only sex you get.

    And yes, communicate with your mate but it sounds like she doesn't really care much about your needs because your relationship is dying so just bang her in the morning and make her happy or some other guy will.

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  • xaris89

    it must be real sad my bf don't want to be with me no more but ur lucky u got her still my bf hates me now!!

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  • watcher2005

    Married 27 years here. Some are morning people & some are night. Mrs is the morning person here. She is cranky and not interested in sex if she's tired, so morning sex works (or used to work) better for her. It's no fun putting the moves on someone and have them lay there not moving or responding. Alternate times. Go for some morning delight on the weekends when you can relax and take your time. Go have your coffee and shower, then crawl back into bed and rock her world. Then shower and start all over again. Compromise to get a little.

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  • peterr

    Usually its the opposite, woman at night man in the morning. I want it at both times so I tell you what, I can fuck her at night or in the morning or you can blow me whenever what works is good for us all.

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  • TwoThumbs

    Fixing the situation only requires one thing.

    Communication.

    Just let her know you think she's gorgeous....let her know how much you love her...then explain the situation.

    "I know we have different schedules, but could be both try find a middle ground?"

    And I've been with wife wife for over 7 years and we're still have a sex regularly. There are patches but we talk about them and when we realize its slowing down because of so much shit going on we work on it and things get back to normal pretty quickly. Being in a sexless relationship is like living with a roommate. Work that ish out now before it makes you resentful. Also...there's so such thing as an "unsatisfying wank".

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    • Great answer, thanks - I guess I knew it, but it's tough with busy work schedules - no time for Afternoon Delight! I'll talk to her about it.

      Also, IIN: sometimes my wanks are unsatisfying? I'm sure that post must be on here somewhere...

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  • tripw7

    I say take it anytime you can get it. It's better than coffee in the morning......

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I love to have sex any time of the day.

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  • quentari

    I have the exact same problem. Fiance's a morning person, I'm a night person!

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