Is it normal i view relationships this way?

Traditional relationships are characterised by some level of romantic love that is not present in platonic friendships. Love is an emotion all of it's own, and you can't accurately describe it as a composite of other emotions, or in relation to other emotions. Besides the labels we put on them, emotions transcend language.

Sounds like you're aromantic. That does not mean you'll never feel romantic love, but it means you don't now or haven't yet.

From an early age we are taught to associate emotions with actions, typically starting with facial expressions. To a certain extent this happens naturally. However, there is no coherent action associated with the emotion of romantic love. There are stereotypical romantic gestures, and there is sex, but there isn't a facial expression for love and there aren't universal ways to express love that truly differentiate it from lust or platonic friendship. Feeling someone else's love happens on an unconscious level. That makes it impossible to think about love consciously and systematically reproduce actions that indicate "love". Most partners can detect that very easily.

Telling you not to over-think what love looks like in practice is probably not useful advice, because emotions don't come naturally to some people and so they have to be thought through. It's all the advice I've got, though.

EDIT: Oh, and I do think it's normal. Especially if you have trouble processing emotions generally. And sorry for all the edits - I've changed this post a few times to try and make it more clear and less jumbled.

First off, forget nearly everything you've seen in films or read in valentine's cards. Parental love, pair bonding in couples, and even closeness in groups of friends is to quite a large extent the result of hormones synthesised in the hypothalamus. Childbirth, orgasm, general intimacy or familiarity start the old neurosecretory cells dripping that juice and the rest of what follows is strongly informed by that.

We wouldn't say sex is a wonderful mysterious force when orgasm is clearly often the result of manipulation of the genitalia. When we suggest love is somehow more than it is (because the internal processes are less visible, I guess), we're missing a point.

Because it's a bodily process, it varies from people to people (the same way some people are more prone to kidney stones or venous thromboembolism, some people fall in "love" more easily and some less easily). If the results were more negative, we'd classify this as a disorder.

And so concludes the speech I always give on first dates.

I don't have second dates.

You will know when you fall in love because it hurts.

Love is wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, I guess you'll know when you find true love.