Is it normal? i've planned out what i want to do when i have children.

When I have a child - be it male or female, though I really want a boy - I want to give it a very beautiful doll, and I want to create a whole story, many, even, to help sublimity teach my future child(ren) good morals and the like. I'm only a teenager myself but I want to begin working on it now, and throughout the next few years of my life, so it will be something really great for my children. I plan on making it old-fashioned and teaching my kids that way, so they can grow up peacefully and happy with themselves. I want to do yoga with them, teach them patience and of course not make them perfect, but do what I can to make them disciplined and I don't even know what to call it.

I'm a fan of the methods used on kids back in the day; whatever the religion, they were stuck onto it, did chores, worked hard, etc.

And I don't want to spoil them.

That may sound rude or whatever, I don't know, but I hate the way I was brought up. And I know times have changed but goddamnit, I want to raise them (though slightly more toned down) how the southern kids were in the 1800s. (SOMEBODY's been reading a little too much Tom Sawyer). But whatever.

And then I want to give them dolls - you know, those $300-$1000 dollar BJDs from Asia - and give them backstories, kind of like an epic, or a poem of some sort. Kind of like a guide or a second guardian for when I can't give them the emotional support they'll need.

Another thing. I'm not sure if I ever want to get pregnant. I consider myself asexual and I have no feelings beyond platonic for anybody, so I don't think I'll be marrying, unless I develop a, "best male friend" thing with somebody I guess, I don't really care. I'm seriously considering about adopting in the future. My goal is really young so I can start fresh, tabla rasa I think, but hey, we have to give the older ones attention too, right? :)

So, is this normal? I'm only in my teens and I'm already thinking about what I want to do. Also, do you think my ideals are farfetched? I wouldn't be so stupid as to have a kid NOW (duh), I'm young and haven't the money, time, and space. I'm talking about when I'm ready, I'll want to do this. And no, I'm not trying to make the "perfect children", that's impossible and ignorant (what are we without flaws?), so I'm sorry if I gave off that impression.

Thank you. :)

Also, what do YOU consider good morals?

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    I did to as much as some arrogant pricks think I would be a bad parent for not wanting to make my kids watch porn when they are little. Which I am sure would count as a crime somehow in my country.

    I have a list of names, how I will raise them, and a list of explanations I written up for anything they might ask, and I am going to send them to private school no matter what, no way am I letting them go to a shitty public school, children only go to those to socialize not learn and if you don't socialize well its just a required torture.

    I am actually am very good with little kids and have a bunch of cousins that age range is 4-14. So maybe I am looking at this too scientifically. I don't have much faith in myself with anything though. So if I did have a kid I would be worried I would somehow screw them up.

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  • collegescot

    Whoa, whoa, whoa.

    No matter how young the child will be when you adopt him or her, he or she will not be a blank slate. There's no such thing as "tabula rasa" when it comes to toddlers or newborns alike. When born, everyone is pre-instilled with specific genes that determine specific physical attributes and personality traits. Please, please remember this if you ever do decide to adopt a child or a baby at one point in your life.

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    • I'm not trying to change them completely, I just want to do what I can emotionally to give them a peaceful life.

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      • collegescot

        That's cool...:-). If you do, then, good luck!

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  • howaminotmyself

    How do you make God laugh?

    Tell him your plans.

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    • Who is this "God" person you speak of?

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      • howaminotmyself

        You tell me.

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        • You mentioned him. YOU tell me.

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          • howaminotmyself

            I cannot answer this question for YOU.

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            • Oh shit I forgot to check back here sorry

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  • Dad

    Will his name be Jesus? Because I think this has been done before.
    Best to tell him the truth though, it didn't work out for that other fellow who believed in these lies.

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  • You are good.

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