Is it normal i've never loved my boyfriend

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I've never fallen in love with anyone and I have no interest in sex whatsoever so to me "romantic" relationships really are just a means to an end. I could pretend to be in a relationship with a man or a woman, anyone. I don't give a shit about the person or their looks or gender.
The guy I'm dating knows so much about some things I'm really interested in, and to me the interesting conversations we have kind of make all that pretending worth it. I wish we could just be friends, but then we wouldn't talk about these things as much but I really want him to teach me all he knows about theoretical chemistry and I want to keep track of the experiments and mathematical studies he does. It's hard to intensely science-stalk people and not be seen as weird without having the relationship setting to it. If I knew another expert I could get in touch with he could die tomorrow and I wouldn't give a damn.
So in reality all I really love is his PhD. Normal or not?

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Based on 65 votes (15 yes)
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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago | pl

    No, that's pretty dark.
    First I just thought it was a bit sneaky that you would deliberately lead him on while you had already friendzoned him in your mind...
    But then you said "he could die tomorrow and I wouldn't give a damn." Holy shit.
    That's definitely not normal. Most people would feel very sad if someone they know died. Even if they didn't like him, it's still sad!
    This statement in combination with the rest of your story sounds like you might be a sociopath. Knowing how to get what you want from people using their feelings against them and lacking any empathy or pity...
    However I'm not a psychologist and you wrote this post probably because you feel guilty about what you're doing. So I could be wrong.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Why can't good friends talk about science? Seriously? I don't think having a relationship with them makes it any more or less weird. It sounds like you don't know what society finds normal or abnormal about relationships.

    Unless he feels the same I expect he'll catch on pretty soon. It's one thing not to be in love with someone, but it's quite another not to give a shit whether someone you know lives or dies. I hope you don't hurt him to much.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I was thinking the same thing about why friends wouldn't talk about science.

      I never understand why people fake themselves for reasons like this when it only causes them more problems and unnecessary burdens. You can get the same results by being yourself.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Because people use one another to further their own agendas, married people do it all the time.

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    Well you're attracted to his intellect, but if you don't have any feelings of attachment to him then it would be best to be friends with him. Were living in the age of communication surely it isn't so hard to talk about these things as friends.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    I think you are a disgusting unfeeling cunt.

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