Is it normal i've lost that living feeling?

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I've been friends with my husband since early elementary school. He had a crush on me for years (everyone knew), but we didn't begin dating until our senior year. We continued the relationship long-distance while I went to college, and married soon after. We've been married now for 7 years .... and I think of him as a friend again. I'm not sexually interested in him and we have little in common to talk about. All this lead me to ask for a separation and I moved in with my sister. We still talk occasionally, mostly about schedules and care for our dogs while he works nights.

Is it normal to not feel "in love" anymore? Is it normal to feel guilty for leaving, considering how long he "liked" me? Sometimes I wonder if he really loves me - or just can't handle the idea of being alone.

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Based on 56 votes (43 yes)
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  • MrsBailey9
    12 years ago

    This is very common with couples who got together at early ages. The two of you "grew up" together. Neither of you have been with another person, and now that you both are older and more mature, it is quite normal to be feeling this way. I think it is admirable of you to be concerned about your spouses feelings, but if you honestly want out, just do it. No need to try and drag it out if you are done, be done. Are you done? Are you sure you are not in love anymore? You can still love another person and not be in love... That is normal. Now, what to do about it...

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Good for you for making the break. Better 7 years than the next 70!

    You can only be responsible for yourself. Your poor hubby will get over it in time and I hope you both remain friends. It's not worth torturing or sacrificing yourself for a loveless marriage.

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  • asianninja
    12 years ago

    I think you should go back to him. If ur think ing about this, and wondering if u should feel guilty. Then obviously,,,something is tryin to pull you back to him.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Normal to feel this way at times, but not normal to distance yourself from a life long friend and mate! It seems it is you that had changed, and should look deeper why, and what you want out of life when you are old and gray! It is not to late to rekindle the excitement!

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