Is it normal i think im superior and dont want friends?

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I have no friends and the only reason im not fine with it is because its not socially acceptable. People who think we are friends hit me up all week but I always ignore their calls. I might delete my Facebook and my phone. Im not depressed, im happier than most coworkers and classmates. People see me as "gorgeous", "intellectual" and "nice".

I rather go on a walk and discover nature or go on a run and better myself. I am about feeling life rather than talking about it with other people. When im in a social setting i love being the center of attention and telling jokes. I used to have parties but would kick everyone out by the AM cause i didnt want to deal with them after that point. they would always think it was weird and think i didnt like them and ask "why?".

I am a teenage freshman in college who simply finds nothing in anyone that makes it worth making an effort for a friendship. I am very nice to people but secretly think im more intellectual than 99% of them. I just dont find people like me (anywhere). So is it normal to live this life with no friends?

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Why are you concerned with what is socially acceptable if you don't want friends?

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      I'm simply concerned that if it is socially unacceptable, maybe there actually is something wrong with me. Like, should I pretend to like people or something? because that seems so very wrong: i don't want fake friends just for the sake of having friends and being socially adequate. Yet people persist on pushing me to pick up my phone and become close with people. This is why I am concerned with it being unacceptable social behavior

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    • wellthatsucks
      12 years ago

      I was thinking the same as you. This makes no sense. Although it's normal to be a teen and have these kind of contradicting thoughts.

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  • someperson123
    12 years ago

    its normal to prefer your own company and not discuss every little thing. its not normal to be as egotistical about it as you are.

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  • DebD
    12 years ago

    You're a teenager, this is just a fase. It's gonna pass. Trust me. I've pass thru it before.

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  • Wilkommen
    12 years ago

    I am not sure how you have people who hit you up all the time. I most definitely would not want to be friends with you. Eventually they will give up though and you will get what you want (deserve). And it really does not matter what you say you think makes you superior. If one thinks he or she is superior, he or she simply is not. If you were really superior, you would not think of yourself as superior.

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      i have people hitting me up because they want to use me. they are ugly souls and they are the only type of people i have in my life. tell me, do you not think that someone who has altruistic values is in fact morally superior than someone with purely selfish intentions ?

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  • tentacleTherapist
    12 years ago

    Yes, that's called being a cynical douchebag pricknugget crackwhore.

    You're a freshman/teenager, you'll get over it like someone else said.

    I like being alone ALL THE TIME, but I NEVER find myself superior to others.

    You seem like a real dick, you might not have friends when you're older, unless they're pathetic hoes following you until you break.

    That, or you need to find someone who makes you fall, and get over this douche phase of yours.

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      Cynical? Though I can't change my feelings, I am a very nice and altruistic person to those around me since I believe they deserve to be treated fair no matter what. And I don't smoke crack and i'm not a whore but I agree that I might be a complete douchebag pricknugget by saying that i feel more intellectual than most hence not feeling connected enough to make friends, and i honestly wish i was not that way... I hope I do get over it too.

      But i don't think i will anytime soon 'cause nearly all the people I know take the common sense of courtesy and respect and flush it down the toilet. Maybe one day they'll grow up, and I will stop thinking I am above them in that way, and we will become friends.

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      • tentacleTherapist
        12 years ago

        Why should they need to grow up? You're the one complaining out of your ass.

        Still, I'm blaming this on you being a little kid. I was very confused and hated everyone at your age. I hope you don't end this fucked up when you're older.

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        • sunnyray
          12 years ago

          They need to grow up because like I said they: take the common sense of courtesy and respect and flush it down the toilet.

          I don't hate everyone I just wish there were more people with values out there that I could better relate with. Than maybe I would actually want to have friends.

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  • Internecine
    12 years ago

    You are an ugly person with an ugly outlook. You get what you deserve.

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      What do you mean I get what I deserve? what do I get? I love life and I am the one who pushes friends away. I was just wondering if it was normal and if there are others like me.

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      • 7even
        12 years ago

        It's normal to assume you're superior (RE: the "smarter than 99% of people") to others, which is why the overwhelming majority of people recognize death as an inevitability but also refuse to accept it as possible to them at the base psychological level. But yours approaches clinical narcissism. From your brief description, you act only in self-interest and appear to lack a developed sense of empathy. Your concerns are all shallow and only relate to how others see you. That's not to say there's anything wrong with you, though, as, in the end, it's *your* life and therefore all about you. Good luck and I hope you find your answer.

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        • Alison89
          12 years ago

          I was thinking the same thing. I think he suffers from narcissistic personality disorder and illusory superiority.

          He even has the same writing quality as others I've seen who suffer from those disorders, including inmates in prisons.

          Another quality (besides thinking they're smarter and better than everyone else) is an inability to feel empathy and a tencacy to throw tantrums when they don't get their way.

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    Look up "narcissistic personality disorder." If you think you don't have any of the symptoms, turn to any person in the room and ask for his or her opinion.

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  • p0op
    12 years ago

    Dude your cool

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  • SEWnanist23
    12 years ago

    You're on the money! Your a members only club and you know it! You're in control of your life and don't want anyone monopolizing it and if they do it's a total waste of your time and energy, something more valuable than money. Don't listen to the people that are saying "you're just going through a phase because your a teenager!" This is it Mein Freund. You are definately the CEO of your life.

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  • VeryOldWiseOne
    12 years ago

    Yeah, that is alright. Friends are losers and just want to call you to ask for money, or for you to help them with something.
    Misanthropy is pretty cool, and pretty much every billionaire or genius is or was a misanthrope.
    Friends will just weigh you down and keep you going backwards in life. But as you are in college already, I advise you to look for the most advanced students in your area, or perhaps some secret club, 322 sort of thing, and try to join them or befriend them. Those are the people that will become something in life and to be their acquaintance is always good. Those are the only friends worthy making.
    The drunkards, drug-heads, and "fun" people you can pay for them to be around you when you get enough money... Trust me, when you get enough money you going to see all those "friends" and "cousins" popping up from nowhere... But the winners, those you have to cultivate as friends, or they going to look you down if you try to do that later...

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  • Katywompus
    12 years ago

    Well, you do seem nice enough. I'm sure youl find someone who has the same views as you. Probably people who are a little older than you. Its very rare for teens to ignore people who they think will just use them. They usually let it happen for acceptance. I think its great that you can see thru the shit and not allow it to happen to you. I think youl be just fine.

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      He just needs to find someone who has an overly inflated opinion of him the same way he has an overly inflated opinion of himself. Unfortunately, that person may only exist in the mirror.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I prefer my own company most of the time but unlike you I am happy to turn off my phone and have no facebook account. I don't need to see how popular I am by how many calls I've missed etc.

    I think coz you're hanging on to society you'll grow out of it!

    Hate to burst your bubble - but you're just the same as every other arrogant teen who thinks they're super intelligent.

    Don't worry - you'll look back and laugh at your idiotic ideas in later years.

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    • sunnyray
      12 years ago

      You read wrong, I actually said I might delete my Facebook and cancel my phone. And I don't think I'm popular at all: those people are most likely using me to party at my house.

      Also, I never said I think I am super intelligent, I said I think I am more of an intellect than most teenagers because they concern themselves with materialistic things and have no core values. This is why I call myself superior to them and prefer to be alone.

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      • Althdeco
        12 years ago

        I disagree with some other comments that this is just a "phase", you very well could be more intelligent than most.

        I too find no need to converse with others unless I can better myself, i.e gain or pass on knowledge, experience, confidence etc.

        You need to know what your goals in life are to determine if you even have the choice to remove yourself from society, you don't want to "burn any bridges" at this point in your life.

        The fact is if you want to get far you'll have to be a dick at some point in your life, so getting used to telling people no cant hurt.

        I deleted my Facebook profile and didn't renew my phone because I was tired of wasting so much time and i've been just fine without it, and talking to dumb people is a lot more bearable when you don't already know everything they do everyday.

        Tough decisions, but there are others like you.

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        • Alison89
          12 years ago

          You don't have to be a dick to someone to go far in life. Telling people "no" doesn't require you being an asshole.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Well then, definitely do it!

        Cancel your phone and facebook if you feel you are being used. Concern yourself with your studies and I'm sure at some point in the near future you will meet some like-minded people.

        Good for you for being mature enough to recognise these users! I hope you do really well.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I understand completely. People get on my nerves all the time. I promise you, you will find a couple of people worth having around.

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  • rainvenom
    12 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. You might meet someone someday that you like enough to want to be in their company. maybe.

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