Is it normal i think every girl i like will cheat on me?

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OKay,

So i like this girl, well i've liked quite a few girls recently, and when i start to talk to them it's all good, we have a laugh and get on. But once i meet them, or get to know them better and we admit our feelings for each other...i start to think "are they cheating on me"....(even though we are single) "is she hitting on other guys", and i tend to push them away and not make conversation. This doesn't mean i don't like them, because usually the more i like a girl the harder it is for me to trust them.....is this me looking for attention?
Or is it because i don't trust myself? (i've never cheated < fact).

I just...you know... i'm 18....and in the modern world you hear about people cheating all the time, and as a guy...i don't want to put my faith in someone when they could be cheating behind my back or playing me around, especially if i never know about it.

Thanks.

Yes 11
Only in Relationships 2
Depends On What The Girl Has Done Before 14
Not really, you just have to put your faith in people more 16
No 3
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  • worried78
    12 years ago

    I think if you have this fear so strongly you will do best not to get involved until you sort it out for yourself. Good for you to realize that this isn't about them, but you. Most people would probably blame the other person when there is no cause for it.

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    I think the rule of thumb is that if you like someone, you can get close, but not too close too them until you're sure you can trust them. The point is, you never know if someone's going to cheat on you until it actually happens, so you have to decide for yourself. Are you going to take you chances and trust a girl that might break your heart by cheating and/or might be the best relationship you ever had? OR Are you going to have little trust in your partner and possibly have an 'incomplete' or more 'lonely' relationship?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Simple answer to this is dont date, or at least dont take dating that seriously. Men have been brain washed into thinking we have to get married, we have to have kids, we have to treat women as if they are deities. Not that I am saying women are nothing, but still I dont understand this tremendous pressure men put on themselves to do this. Its just not necessary.

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  • nowhereboy
    12 years ago

    Its a pretty sad fact that people cant be trusted. Relasionships dont make sense to me. All that "your my one and only" "ive never loved anyone like i love you". Its all bullshit.

    Id love to be naive and belive it when a girl says somthing like that to me, but its just not so. We will break up at some point and she will say the same thing to her next partner.

    Love is a make belive concept to me.

    Sad, i wish it wasnt so...

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  • Corleone
    12 years ago

    It's normal you don't trust her when you haven't got to know her well. Trust is something you have to earn, it takes time.

    And in the end, there's always a chance someone'll cheat on you. But that's no reason to assume it's going to happen.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    You should afford the same level of trust to them as you think you deserve. Innocent until proven guilty. Being paranoid and convincing yourself that the road your on will only lead to heartbreak is a self-fulfilling prophecy, because you then ruin whatever you chance you had yourself before they get a chance.

    From what I can tell, it's fear. You're afraid of taking a leap of faith, afraid of the risk in putting your trust in someone, allowing them the opportunity to hurt you. Whilst you might be protecting yourself from being hurt by them, you are also stopping yourself from potentially loving and being loved, being content with someone.

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