Is it normal i think eventually someone always cheats?

Yeah I cheated a lot in my first marriage, but never have, nor have the desire too in my second. I still get plenty of chances, but never moved on them.

I think once a cheater always a cheater only applies to those people who find themselves on the cycle of being with the same type of people. Same actions will give same results. And don't think the person who is being cheated on is the 100% innocent victim. Most times people cheat for a reason, and its not some "Sexual Sickness" people are trying to make it out to be that needs treatment.

People all too often let love and affection fall by the waste side once they get married. People also tend to push their spouses away, as if they will always come back, out of faith and obligation.

Marriage is difficult, intimacy and maintaining faithfulness are all difficult. At one time in western history, infidelity was primarily a "male" problem. After the sexual revolution of the sixties however, it became a "human" problem, where both men and women, had about equal opportunities to be unfaithful in a relationship (the main factors include increased sexual activity of young adults and increased time spent with those of the opposite sex). This is reflected in the fact that your friends, both ladies, have cheated on their partners already and are probably both under 30 yrs.

Your fears are valid, because there is no way...absolutely none...to guarantee that a partner (or even one's self) would be faithful to their partner always. Very few people get into relationships with the mindset that they will one day cheat, but many eventually do (current statistics vary between 50-60% of all married couples will be unfaithful at some point in the relationship).

So what can you do about this? Know thy self! The better you are at understanding your own self, and knowing what you are capable of, the likelier you are to know how you would react in a situation where cheating or not was your choice to make. A clearer understanding of yourself will help you when you are trying to understand someone else whom you care about and want to build a relationship with. You have to feel that you know this person, and can trust them to be honest with you. This has a lot to do with the kind of relationship you develop with this person. What is the communication like between you? Do you encourage them to share their feelings and ideas on issues? Do you nag or admonish them for their mistakes? etc etc. If you know yourself, know what you can and cannot tolerate in life and aim to be the kind of person that would neither cheat nor want to be cheated on, you are more likely to end up with a mate that will respect this, practice this and honor this.

best of luck to you.

definitely, if alcohol is involved. I would never cheat on my boyfriend sober but I've come close when I'm drunk. Funnily enough I really don't think he ever would though, he doesnt even watch porn

Aww don't lose faith in relationships. Not EVERYONE will cheat. I would never. I'm totally satisfied by my boyfriend, I have no reason to look for anything else.

Everything in life has its risks. To blow off all the good things a successful marriage offers just because someone might cheat and hurt your feelings is silly.

Statistics say that over 75% of men have cheated and over 65% of women have cheated, so yes, it's normal to think most people will cheat.

cheaters choose to cheat. if the relationship isn't solid, then there's always that chance. some people have higher standards then others.

Yes, everyone does cheat. Even if it's just with their thoughts. Especially men. Well, especially women to. All of us. Animals as well. We can't really help it.

It's bound to happen. In this age, with such easy access to things impure, it's going to happen. Sad, but so true.

Before it was just magazines. Then film. Now the internet where porn, escorts, cams and more are just a click away.

There will be no perfect unions. Get used to it. It's the truth of our future.

Do you want to live alone, or accept that truth and bend it to your rules?

Good luck.