Is it normal i think dates are horrible?

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Is it normal I think dates are horrible and bad for self esteem. I have had many relationships but only 3 of these relationships involved an actual date.

Dates are suppose to be used to either decide if you would date the person or for people who are dating already and want to go out together.

If you mess up your first date and its a test out date that person can dump you and say "No" before it even starts. My first date I was a nervous wreck and generally when flirting and in a relationship I am very confident. Yet somehow when you put me on a date I lose it. Does anyone else think dates are awful?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Wow, I thought the idea of dating was to go out somewhere and have a good time with someone. I didn't know it was supposed to be a test. I wonder if I passed or failed these tests? Hum.....
    I've always loved going "out" on dates, whether I was single, in a relationship or even married. Out doing something that we can't do at home, like going to the zoo, the motocross races, a science museum or a comedy club. Oh well, I guess the whole idea of just having fun with another person is just stupid. Live and learn.

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.
    10 years ago

    It is a test of whether you will be in a relationship with the person or not. I've been date raped 3 times so now I bring a chaperone so I can feel safe

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Im so sorry to hear that.

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      • Agirlsbestfriend.
        10 years ago

        thank you, now i just try and help others who have been through the same thing.

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    • thegypsysailor
      10 years ago

      Rather than a chaperone, how about carrying a straight razor and "Bobbit" these guys? Then they couldn't do it to anyone else, ever again.

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      • Agirlsbestfriend.
        10 years ago

        Trust me, Im would but its not that easy in the situation. Better to have someone else there. Anyway some poeple still find ways to do evil things

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I think dating is probably going to be unenjoyable if you're deeply invested in the idea of a relationship with this person. Dating works best when it's between two people who are looking to have fun and get to know each other better, nothing necessarily more than that. *Both* parties have to be in it for the same reasons, or else it's just unequal and un-fun.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      If all you want to do is know a person better you do not date them. You become friends. Dating is generally romantic.

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      • peterr
        10 years ago

        And I like to eat dates.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          You mean the fruit?

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          • peterr
            10 years ago

            No I mean the women I date. Cunnilingus!

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        As I see it, dating is meant to be fun and flirtatious. There's a romantic element, but that's not over-bearing. You've declared that you find each other mutually attractive, but you're still in the exploratory stages of finding out whether you'd like to be in a committed relationship or not.

        You want to get to know each other better in a romantic context.

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  • Shelbs
    10 years ago

    It would be horrible if you thought of it as a test. Then you would be calculating your next move and, honestly, that's just tiresome. No wonder you hate 'dates'. Try letting go of your fears of loosing and just live in the present.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Well if someone is only going out on a date to see if they will pursue a relationship with you since you asked them out is that not "A TEST". If you pass you have a new gf/bf and if not you blew it and you try someone else. Is that not a test?

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      • Shelbs
        10 years ago

        It depends... That person probably doesn't even think of it as a date. They probably just think they are chilling like friends. So in that case just have fun. focus on getting to know the person first before you consider them as relati9onship material. ;)

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    I'll have you know that Dates are very delicious and versatile for various uses! Ever heard/tried date sugar? How about date syrup?

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