Is it normal i still want her

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During my hight school years I ended being best friends with this really cute girl but as always having a best friend who is the opposite sex isnt always straight forward and I ended up really liking and wanting to be more then friends.But not knowing how to tell her how I really felt about her I kept putting it off for the next 4 years ,which during this time I actted really childish towards her which according to to Freud, and I'm paraphrasing, instinct of love toward an object demands a mastery to obtain it, and if a person feels they can't control the object or feel threatened by it, they act negatively toward it. Like an eighth-grade boy punching a girl.so in our last year in school before we graduated I finally grow the courage to tell her how I feel which as you can imagine didnt go as I planned .She told me that I needed to get over these feelings towards her and she stopped talking to me but the worst bit out of this entire was that we did everything together like id pick her up from her house and walk her to school and drop her of at the end of the day I got on great with her parents .so I. ended up spending three months trying to keep myself together after the end of graduation which was around 2011 which in that small span of time I still find myself in love with her which I can't stand. is it normal to still love almond through all of that time?

YES, it 's normal 44
NO , It 's NOT normal 7
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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Cashews are better.

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  • Satanic_Cereal
    10 years ago

    you might simply need some more time to get over her-- three months is not that long, considering. Maybe you're mostly having trouble not thinking about her, because it is hard to forget the embarrassment.

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  • ieat
    10 years ago

    She's probably just upset that she couldnt have a relationship with a boy best friend without feelings, if anything she probably feels guilty because she doesnt feel the same way

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Normal, I don't know. Unhealthy, for sure.
    She didn't mess you about; she was straight and up front; she doesn't want you.
    I'm sure every single person on IIN has had an un-returned crush in high school; it's just part of life!
    Move on, be with other girls, lots of other girls. Forget the girl; I'm sure she's forgotten you.

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    • Freedom_
      10 years ago

      If they were best friends, I'm sure she hasn't forgotten him. She probably misses him as a friend.

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      • thegypsysailor
        10 years ago

        We fellas, especially in our teen years, tend to impose our dreams on remembered relationships with girls. It's more likely she saw the friendship in a completely different light.
        However, given that you are right, she certainly isn't pining for his friendship or she would have rekindled the friendship, don't you think?

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        • Freedom_
          10 years ago

          Nah. Once a friend announces love and want for more than friendship, the girl who is happy with a simple friendship figures the friendship will never be the same. That's how I felt at least. There will always be that awkwardness, so best to just let it be and miss said friend in the end.

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          • thegypsysailor
            10 years ago

            Not being a girl, I bow to your experience and wisdom.
            As a guy, I say; move on.

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