Is it normal i still message my ex even though he has me blocked?

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Every day when I get home from work or it’s nearing the end of the day, I will log onto MSN and tell my ex about what I did today and how everything is going in my life right now. The only problem is that my ex and I had a very bad break up and he never wants to talk to me again, but I just can’t let him go because I really loved him that much. It has been 2 years since then, I haven’t been in a serious relationship with anyone ever since and don’t think I ever will or can. He was the only guy who ever really noticed me and didn’t care about my appearance. When I was still with him, he was the one I always ran to for comfort or just to talk about how my day went. He’s gone now, he has moved on, and he has a new boyfriend that I have heard he cares for very much, but I can’t break the habit of talking to him like he’s still there. It brings me comfort and makes me happy to pretend like I am still with him, even though deep down I know I’m not. It brings me comfort to believe that he still cares and that he still thinks about me even though I know he doesn’t. I do this in hopes that one day he may log on and decide to unblock me to find all these messages from me and feel as horrible as I did when he left. Is this normal or am I going crazy?

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  • Silentnight
    11 years ago

    Hi there, this may not be considered normal to some people, but in my opinion its normal, but I wouldn't exactly say its healthy, putting yourself through all of that. I used to want to do that too, except I just stared at my ex girlfriends facebook page a lot. It gave me comfort to see her and hear about her, even though I couldn't talk to her. But in the end I had to come to terms with the fact that she is never coming back and that I have no choice but to move on. As perfect as he may have seemed, there is someone else out there waiting for you to give them the chance to see just how perfect they are too. You don't want to believe it because thats what your emotions are telling you. You might have to get ready for a big cry to let this person go, but your heart will thank you for it in the long run.

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    I agree with the previous comment, it's not healthy but it's somewhat normal. Everybody has different ways of grieving after breaking up. You'll get past it eventually. Good luck.

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  • GlassDarkly31
    11 years ago

    Everything you need you already have.

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  • melodyskye
    11 years ago

    Yes, I am a gay male and no, this is not a joke. I'm not trying to stalk my ex in any way or do any harm, I haven't seen him in over 2 years. It's mostly out of the fact that it makes me happy because I haven't been with anyone ever since.

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  • Waffle-Don't-Die
    11 years ago

    You said he has a boyfriend,so he's gay, so you will probably never get back together with him.. Just try to get over it

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      The OP might be a guy, though. I sort of figured they were, since they said "he has a new boyfriend", not "he has a boyfriend now".

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    • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
      11 years ago

      The OP is a homosexual male?

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  • loldude
    11 years ago

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  • Mason334
    11 years ago

    I'm shure you are a wonderfull girl I would comfort you but I don't know you I'm shure it happend for a reason maybe you will find someone better sorry if I sound a little wired i have a thing were I have traits of both genders I'm a boy :) hope you fell better

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    It kind of sounds like a diary.. I agree that it isn't healthy what you're doing. I think you should wean off of it slowly, and maybe start a diary? It might be easier than dropping this cold turkey.

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  • zombiegirl90
    11 years ago

    I think you need to buy a diary/journal. From what you've said it seems like you enjoy the release of telling someone about your day and you can get the same sort of feeling with a journal. Plus cutting your one sided communication will help you move one.

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  • melodyskye
    11 years ago

    What does me being a gay male have to do with anything? You're going out of subject of my post.

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  • Wh0Ar3YoU
    11 years ago

    Im not going to help a gay male with his/her problems since doing so would be out of the question.

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  • dustybubbles
    11 years ago

    Be careful or he will put a restraining order. My ex kept doing this to me and I had to threaten him with a restraining order. He put my and my family and friends thru hell. He was legit crazy

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  • kyanviado
    11 years ago

    Honestly, he is not coming back so it's time to face the music. Cry, scream, yell, hell even punch something. You need to get over I suggest trying something that will divert your attention

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    I am going to be slightly controversial, but I sincerely hope this is a joke.
    If not, you need to move on. You can't keep wasting your life away like this. There are other people out there who will happily love you and you will fall in love back. You need to move on.
    By the way, no one uses MSN anymore.

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  • BurnaBaby27
    11 years ago

    Aww, move on. You'll find someone better. This isn't healthy.

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