Is it normal i still don't want to settle down

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I started dating 8 years ago. I have been in a few relationships lasting a year + but as soon as they mention moving in and/or the future. I run straight away. I want a relationship but I prefer dating random people and basically having many people in my life. My parents think it's about time I start to find somebody to settle down with and have kids. Firstly I hate kids and I never want to have one. Any advice?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't rush into anything you don't want to do!

    You sound like you're having a great time and long may that last. When you meet the right one, you will want to settle down, so don't until that time comes.

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    • NothingxCrazy
      12 years ago

      I'm with you on this one.
      Forcing something like marriage is a big mistake..

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  • littlelulu1999
    12 years ago

    I know a lot of single people who date, or even don't date at all, and have other people make them feel there is something wrong with being alone, and then they start thinking (while they are happily living their single lives) they need a relationship just because society thinks you need a relationship. You can be happy either being single or in a relationship. You don't NEED either one, but you've got to WANT ONE OR THE OTHER. You either WANT a relationship or you DON'T WANT a relationship. You do not want a relationship if you want to date a lot of people. A relationship means committment and responsibility towards ONE person. Therefore be honest with yourself and the people you date from the get go because you can only have 1)dating a lot of people or 2)being in a relationship with one person. Pick one and own how you feel and don't let your parents or anybody else tell you its wrong however you choose to live your life. Nothing wrong with dating a lot of people, and there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship. YOU have to decide, at least for now, which one is the right thing for now. You may change your mind either way in the future. But bottom line is you can't have both at the same time.

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  • HeadOfState
    12 years ago

    I suggest you ask yourself why you're so adverse to having a serious relationship with anyone. There's nothing wrong with not having serious relationships, but they can be very healthy for a lot people.

    I'm not saying you should hurry to settle down with someone. Just do a little self examination to find out why you're so opposed to it. You may come to the conclusion that you have some strange irrational fear of commitment that's preventing you from having healthy committed relationships.

    I don't claim to be a relationship expert or anything. I pretty much just pulled all that out of my ass, but it sorta makes sense to me.

    Cheers :)

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    just have fun and your parents are douchkebabs

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    if you're a girl, you better find someone before your looks fade. if you're a guy, its allllll goooooood you can mack on 20 year olds till you're like 60 :)

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