Is it normal i resent compliments that aren't about my face?

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I have a boyfriend who I am quite in love with. He is totally into me, and is very doting. He loves to tell me how smart, beautiful, and sexy I am and all that. However, the other day he was describing what was perfect about me and he went down the list saying you have a perfect ass, tantalizing pussy, gorgeous breasts, thighs, legs, feet, etc. and for some reason I felt resentment and annoyance. I mean, he tells me how beautiful and gorgeous I am all the time, and I always felt good because I assumed he meant my face, but now I am wondering what he means about those terms. I don't want him to just find me sexually attractive. I am in good shape, and have a nice body, so I wonder if that is all he finds beautiful about me. It hurts, because I don't really feel proud of that stuff at all. I wish he'd say something about how beautiful my face is. Am I just being over sensitive? Girls, can you relate to this feeling? And guys, do you find a woman's body more important than her face?

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    You probably have a beautiful face. God, boys say stupid things some times and leave out what they're supposed to say. What a funnehhh.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    You don't think you're being a bit too fussy? You get lots of compliments, but they are not the compliments you want to hear? Yikes. That seems pretty high-maintenance and insecure.

    Love yourself. Know that you are pretty and don't rely on others to tell you that you are in order to feel validation. Validate yourself. :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Well, maybe I am being too fussy. Obviously I have never complained to him about this all, and have just told myself that this is how guys are. I should try and validate myself, you're right, but it's hard for we women to feel secure on our own...if you catch my drift. :)

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago

    I totally relate to this. I would feel pissed off too. Trying to explain this to your bf though will be hard, awkward and could come out all wrong. I agree with emilydoll... He is just another hopeless male! Clueless!!! Ask him what he sees when he looks at your face!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thanks for the good advice, and for being able to understand and relate. I'll try asking him this next time we approach the subject, but it will be kinda awkward, as he likes to lead such conversations. I'm imagining myself butting in and asking, "so what do you think about my face?" Hmmm, sounds a bit ummm, immature? Wish me luck.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    I meant he's a dumby.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      LOL, I see, I was wondering what funnehhh meant. :) Yeah, okay, thanks. :)

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    Dumbfuck I meant not funnneh my stupid iPhone spellcheck is stupid as a boy.

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