Is it normal i pay for everything?

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I am a women working a job that usually requires me to work 6 days a week. My boyfriend, the father of our child, is laid off due to winter. I am constantly paying for everything NO MATTER what it is. Anything for our daughter, his gas, my gas, our bills, his bills. He never gets me gifts or even tries to help pay for anything. He takes, takes, takes. When he gets paid he throws a fit that he has to pay me back after I've already paid the bills in full and have no money for myself. Should I really be treated like this? Is this really normal?

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Based on 53 votes (10 yes)
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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago

    It's not normal. In the "olden days" they had all these platitudes that they repeated constantly to the kids as they were growing up, to help make them wise. The last couple of generations, being raised by TV instead of parents, have missed out on that wisdom.
    One thing they used to say is; an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. People today tend to jump into relationships based on sex appeal and end up making babies before they even know if they are compatible. Years ago they got to know each other first to find out if the other person would be a good life partner before they started making babies. It wasn't necessarily as much fun but it prevented a lot of problems.
    I don't know what the answer is now. You need to have a serious talk with him about this situation and how it's affecting you, and your relationship, and potentially the well being of your child. Maybe he should be looking for a year around job that pays better. The two of you should come up with some kind of budget where each of you pays certain bills and pool your resources and SPLIT the money that's left over for discretionary spending.
    Good luck!

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  • LittleGirlBashedAndSodomised
    8 years ago

    Sounds like a pretty one-sided story to me...

    Of course when traditional sex roles are switched around like this the woman is always complaining which can be seen.

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    • BluntsRolled
      8 years ago

      I was thinking the same thing. I doubt you would feel bad if the shoe was on the other foot.

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      • LittleGirlBeatenAndSodomised
        8 years ago

        I most certainly wouldn't. I once refused to allow a woman to pay for shit on the dates we went on. Now it's the opposite.

        It seems this womans man knows what he's doing.

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        • BluntsRolled
          8 years ago

          No, see I worded that wrong I was agreeing with you. I was referring to the OP. Thats guy has his shit figured out. If I was him I'd get a few bitch on the side just in case.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    He's selfish and he's bludging off you: get rid of him if he won't change

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    • FullGrainLeather
      8 years ago

      Yeah, sure she can do that but with a kunt as old as yours, hers would be unusable. She'd be too old to find another mate, JUST LIKE YOU.

      Bad advice.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago

    If he's not working, it seems reasonable that you pay for the majority of things. Assuning he contributes to the family in some other way, such as childcare and housework.

    If you're saying he's like this when he's working, then yes, that is unfair. But it is up to you to sort it out.

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  • Chelseymarieee
    8 years ago

    He's awful with his money. We've been together for years so we didn't jump into a relationship and have kids. I didn't realize how bad he was either. I've noticed he's a very taking person with everyone.

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    • (s)aint
      8 years ago

      Not normal. Especially not manly. Bills should be split equally

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  • Goku19
    8 years ago

    But why you are a women ? It scares me.

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    • Chelseymarieee
      8 years ago

      You make no sense.

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      • Goku19
        8 years ago

        You can play NaginDance.mp3 whenever you feel treated unfairly.

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      I agree with Goku he is always right, funny, and cool.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Isn't a bit late to be figuring out that you aren't going to be happy with this guy, AFTER you've had a kid with him? This doesn't sound like a relationship that's going to last much longer. Too bad for the kid!

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    • Chelseymarieee
      8 years ago

      You jump to conclusions fast? What the fuck?

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  • asswecan
    8 years ago

    let me guess. ur husband must have a penis over 9 inches

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