Is it normal i only get piece of crap, crazy men?

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i feel like i always get the bad fortune cookie. what could i be doing wrong? i'm moderately nice looking, average intelligence, have many interests, can carry a conversation about almost anything, i'm curious, i like to have fun, and so on... so i ask, what is it that makes me attract the worst guys ever? cheaters, compulsive liars, neurotics, paranoids, leeches, bipolars, narcissists, addicts, married, uneducated... worse of all is that i recognize most of it in a couple of weeks and end up staying with them. so I ask, why? and is ti normal?

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Maybe you shun nice guys and go for the infamous bad boy like lots of girls.

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    • CreamPuffs
      7 years ago

      I don't do that, but the OP might.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    It seems you attract the same kind of men here too.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Take a break from dating; start working on yourself. Whatever you've been doing so far hasn't worked so it's time to learn some new tools and behaviors. You can see a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist to help you explore your personal and family of origin issues. Also checkout these two twelve step groups http://www.coda.org/ http://www.coda.org/ http://www.slaafws.org/meetings

    If you continue to do what you've been doing you will continue to get what you've been getting.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      this is interesting advice. are you like that? i mean, are you speaking from experience? i answered yes to 24 of the 40 questions in the self diagnosis test and would have answered yes to more of them a while ago. i've gotten better, i have been working on myself and staying away from relationships but every now and then a man gets interested in me and it turns out he's one of those types i mentioned in the post. sometimes i let myself get involved due to , idk, loneliness maybe? or hope that 'this time it will work'? i'm trying to change and have been successful, my main frustration and concern is that despite all that i keep finding those guys, or they keep finding me. i feel i'm ready for a new healthy relationship but i just don't have anyone to have it with

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    If this would have been written by a man complaining about attracting worst kind of women, everybody would go off on him saying that is what he deserves or it's his fault for having bad tastes or whatever. But since this is written by a woman, everyone is supportive and encouraging her.

    Go figure...

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    • CreamPuffs
      7 years ago

      I don't think so. I feel like only a few assholes would be like that, and the majority would support him. I certainly would.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Same reason why a toilet has to swallow allot of shit before you can sit on it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Married? And you end up staying with them?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      good point you made there, it did sound like it but no, i've never been with a married man although some have taken interest in me :(

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        STAY AWAY. Best advice I can give to you.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          actually i stay away from ALL men but i am really worried about what i've been doing wrong to only come across theses types of guys

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            It's not what you are doing wrong. You should first get to know a guy and when you know he is not 'the good type' move on. You will find 'the good type of guy some day. Kinda like Acumen said XD

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              i don't even understand acumen's comment lol..... from what you said then i'd wonder WHEN im going to find a good guy and WHERE. anyway thanx for commenting

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Holy shit it's so fucking frustrating dealing with you lame people.

    Some of you I'm shocked can read and type.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Ok fine. I'll bite.

    1. It's possible the only thing you're doing wrong here is jumping into bed/a relationship with these guys before you really know them (as someone already said).

    2. Forget number 1 because the truth is MOST people are trash. They are selfish, lying, cheating pieces of garbage. It's true for most men and women in this country (US) and I feel it's very depressing.

    Why is it this way :

    I believe in our society (here in the states) it's largely this way because it's what the media portrays: Movies, music, exposure to constant negative news, etc. they all glamorize cheating, slutting around, etc.

    Most people are very easily brainwashed or influenced by what they are exposed to.
    Seriously. Look at our so called political 'leaders', they are lying dishonest trash. Look at our teachers they screw little kids. Priests? Same there too. How many corrupt cop stories have you heard? Remember being in high school and friends with the A students? I do and they all cheated to be A students. Hardly anyone I've met in this world is a decent person. They are selfish dishonest scum for the most part.

    So in a nut shell, it's our western society that breeds this trash:
    Movies, music, exposure to constant negative news making these things seem normal and ok, Dishonest leaders, dishonest companies, etc.
    I feel it's also all the pills, drugs,alcohol and smoking that people are on.
    Probably more than half of the population is probably on some form of drug which of course affects their thinking and behavior. It also could be the toxic foods we eat, they're full of chemicals and they are cumulative so over time they negatively affect how one feels which of course directly affects how one thinks and acts.

    So. Are there great guys out there in this country?

    YES, but very few.

    Are there great girls out there in this country?

    I hope so but so far all I know are cheating sluts.
    I'm a great good looking highly intelligent / fun guy that can pick up any chick and I don't even want to. It's so rare I find a quality girl it's depressing. So much drama and issues with these girls I'd rather just jack off and be satisfied and not deal with them.

    Ok so where to meet great guys?
    Hell I'm a great guy and I avoid other guys so maybe I'm not the best source but I'd say upper class functions. Maybe wine tasting/groups. Maybe groups that focus on making money and investments. If you're a great gal join that Millionaire's club and try to date a millionaire.

    Why do that?

    Because if the guy turns out to be a creep at least you got something out of it. Meaning he treated you well and you had great dates at least in the beginning.
    Even better: If you marry him or get pregnant it's like you won the lottery ;)

    If you're really seeking a great guy in this country maybe try something like a church, although creepers go there too to pick up girls. Also it seems some religious people are a bit nuts and imbalanced or just really stupid.

    Without knowing you in more detail like knowing what you do or how you present yourself it's really hard to say.

    If you want to meet a great guy elsewhere maybe look outside the country or for foreigners who weren't raised here.

    Also a lot of the better guys aren't players so they don't approach girls or when they do they aren't very smooth at it so girls (like you) get turned off. These guys still want to get laid like any guy but they're are often too scared or insecure to approach well. Being scared often means they like you. Guys who don't get scared are either seasoned players or don't really care about you at all.

    Maybe instead of letting some loser choose you, you should go get a guy that didn't approach you.
    Guys who approach you are often just out to get laid and obviously you're not the only girl they've approached and laid so you're just a game to them.

    You kind of sound like you go out with any guy that hits on you.

    So it's a number's game:

    You gotta go through a lot of people (shit in the toilet to reference the other poster's comment) to find a great one.
    I personally hate doing that but I probably don't have much choice.

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    • Shroot
      10 years ago

      Damn you wrote all that for 3 thumbs down

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I could care less if everyone thumbs down what I write.

        99% of the planet used to think the world was flat so that tells you how much the population knows.

        A person has to be on a certain level of life to truly understand what I write.
        They need to be highly intelligent and experienced.

        If the reader isn't on that level they just assume I'm wrong or an asshole.

        I could really care less. I know there's intelligent people out there that appreciate my writings and those people gain a lot of wisdom and perspective from my writings.

        Speak the truth or go away.

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        • Shroot
          10 years ago

          -4 now.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Only -4?

            I'm disappointed.

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            • Shroot
              10 years ago

              -5

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    • thatchickyouhate
      10 years ago

      yikes, I was totally into your response until the millionaire/baby/lottery reference. that's one ugly idea.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago | pl

        Atlantis is a complete nutcase.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          LOL.

          It's only because I'm brilliant and beyond most people's level of comprehension is why you'd think so.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            No one is taking your comments seriously. You are either good at trolling or you are very deluded.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              LOL.

              Intelligent people do understand and agree with my posts but like I said they're beyond you.

              If posters read what I write and then read what you write there's no comparison.

              You go across this site writing childish foolish sex masterbation comments while I contribute the hard truth and deconstruct the OP's scenario and provide valuable insight.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          why do you keep commenting and deleting your comments on my post?

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        "that's one ugly idea."

        Hi.

        It's not really. It's a great idea because successful guys are usually better people and more dedicated. I know it's true rich guys can be creeps too but seriously who do you think makes a better mate and provider?

        A broke ass guy struggling or a guy that's already made money?

        One of the biggest obstacles in a real relationship are money problems.
        At least the guy who's already got money won't have these issues and your quality of life will be much better, especially if you have kids.

        I'm not saying broke guys can't be amazing mates; they can be.
        But the OP is having seriously trouble finding a quality guy and I'd bet she hasn't ever dated a guy that's wealthy so she should try it. There's many benefits to dating a guy with money over a guy that doesn't have money.

        I personally am an amazing guy. I'm not nearly as 'blunt' or 'brutal' in real life as I am on here.
        I'm also not wealthy (yet).

        It's my personal goal to become a millionaire in the next 2 years so that's what I spend most of my time doing -pursing money. I don't have time nor am I interested in slutting around or even wasting my time with dating the wrong girl. I only really am interested in finding and being with a quality woman that's a great match for me and I for her. Beyond that I want money and I'm going for it.

        Just telling it the way it is.

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        • TheWeasel
          10 years ago

          I have not been here long and I have seen a few of your novels on these posts. Bro, I just have to say, your comments are fucking ridiculous. Lol. You should get a life bro. Seriously lol.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            I've got a life kid.

            "Bro, I just have to say, your comments are fucking ridiculous. "

            If you're lucky, when you grow up you'll start to understand.

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            • TheWeasel
              10 years ago

              No one is going to listen to what you have to say when you come off as condescending towards everyone. No matter how smart you think you are. You probably never socialize with any one outside the internet because you have delusions of grandeur and think you are better than everyone when in fact you are just an idiot. Usually the dumbest people are the ones that always brag that they are smart. Broski.

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        • thatchickyouhate
          10 years ago

          that's NOT even close to an explanation or expansion of what you said.

          "Because if the guy turns out to be a creep at least you got something out of it. Meaning he treated you well and you had great dates at least in the beginning.
          Even better: If you marry him or get pregnant it's like you won the lottery ;)"

          regardless, if you're so focused on your "2 year goal", stop wasting time saying stupid shit on this site. just my little bit of financial advice to you: time is money, and you're wasting both here.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            "regardless, if you're so focused on your "2 year goal", stop wasting time saying stupid shit on this site. just my little bit of financial advice to you: time is money, and you're wasting both here."

            What I write isn't stupid shit. It's helpful information and it helps people.

            It's kind of become a hobby.

            Besides that, I am working.

            I'm a software engineer and I work from home.
            So opening up this site only takes me a few moments away from my actual code writing.
            It's like a mini mental vacation I get to take for a few moments.

            Everyone needs a little stress release and I enjoy helping people which is what my advice does.

            But you are somewhat correct. I probably shouldn't be wasting my time trying to help people who aren't even intelligent enough to correctly perceive my advice.

            It's like trying to teach calculus to a monkey.
            Why bother.

            No, I'm not talking about the OP in this case.

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            • thatchickyouhate
              10 years ago

              clearly your advice is SO well received and helpful here... based on the -5 your comment has.

              sincerely,
              some stupid monkey

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        • CreamPuffs
          7 years ago

          Someone is certainly narcissistic and think they got it all figured out. Tsk tsk.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      before you edited your reply it seemed nicer than what i just read

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Well, that I don't recall.

        I tend to edit a lot adding or re-wording.

        If I don't feel something drives the point home I may re-write it as any good writer does.

        Anyway :)

        Did you like what I wrote because there's much truth in it?

        Our country is really messed up and breeds selfish lower class people compared to other countries. We're surround by dishonesty and it's accepted and even glamorized by the media further encouraging and rewarding others to do the same.

        Creating chaos is partly how our government maintains control over the population. People are too disorganized and mentally distracted to do anything about the corrupted powers at be so it helps them maintain their strangle hold on the population.

        If some people get their feelings hurt or their personal perception bubble popped, that's called growing up and they'll become better people for it.

        People ask for the truth and I give it to them.

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        • thatchickyouhate
          10 years ago

          lol, do you really think you're popping anyone's personal perception bubble? what authority do you think you have that anyone on this site would take you seriously?

          hilarious.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Don't bother. You would have an easier time arguing with a rock or a piece of moldy cheese than with this self important douche bag.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            You also have to remember that atlantis is in his 40s. What 40 year old man sits a home and bullies random strangers on a joke website? I guess we are all beneath his great intellect to understand his ways. Hah pathetic.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              I work from home on my computer writing software as I've written.
              Reloading this page to read new comments or reply takes little time.
              These replies of mine are not very time consuming as I type very quickly and this is child's play which doesn't require much thought.

              I also don't bully anyone. I help people. Sometimes it's with 'tough love'.

              If you can't handle that, cry me a river or don't.
              Either way I don't care.

              Anyway more commentary from the peanut gallery I see.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            You're missing the point.

            I don't care if you take me seriously.

            I'm here to set things straight and if you're on a higher level of life you'll understand it and realize what I write is truthful accurate information.

            If not it's beyond you which is why some of you won't take it seriously.

            I can't magically program you with intelligence and wisdom so you or others understand reality nor is it my job.

            Many of you people are on a lower level of life and there's nothing wrong with that.

            Your self given names even declare it:

            'thatchickyouhate'
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            'Icame'

            Seriously.

            It's like Jr high school in here.

            Read Icame's comments and you'll see your intelligence and opinion is aligned with his then read my comments. You'll see I'm on a higher level.

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            • thatchickyouhate
              10 years ago

              oh, yes. much higher level I'm sure.

              i'll let you get back to your important work. i'm gonna go drool on myself for a while and then maybe later I'll blow spit bubbles. i have a full day of important things to do also.

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            • CreamPuffs
              7 years ago

              Okay, you need to have a good reality check. Some of your advice is helpful, and most if what you speak is the truth, but honestly you're being a huge dick. Not only that, but your arrogance makes your posts seem worse then they really are. Stop acting like you're on a magical higher level to everyone else. Your posts are alright, but they aren't the wonderful Devine Truths you seem to think of them as.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          you do write a lot... but to say that makes you a great writer is kinda too much! lol

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Atlantis is on an ego trip from hell I tell you!

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            LOL. I didn't mean on here.

            There's not much point for me to put a lot of time into these posts.

            I type very quickly and can reply quickly.

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