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I never feel like I'm good enough. I Feel like my friends get all the guys and I'm always single. I am so unconfident in my self.
Is it normal?
It's common to feel that way.
But, you know, you're really selling yourself short by thinking that way.
This is your logic:
- Your friends have boyfriends.
- Your friends are "pretty".
- Therefore, "pretty" is what guys want.
- You don't have a boyfriend.
- Therefore, you must not be "pretty".
- Confidence comes from being "pretty".
- You are not "pretty", so you have no confidence.
When it's written out like that, does it help you see how your logic is based on some pretty large assumptions and biases about how other people think and behave?
There are a lot of guys out there that are not solely interested in a girls appearance - they are interested in a girl's character as well. Perhaps then, you are not noticing these types of guys (the good type) and you ONLY see the guys who truly are just interested in a girls looks. Not to mention, that you're selling your friends short when you assume that their boyfriends are only interested in them for their appearance.
Have a good look around, at what is really going on around you; I bet you have tons of great qualities that other people find attractive, and even physical ones. Figure out who you are, how you would describe yourself honestly, and make sure you are not comparing yourself to others while you're in the process of doing this. Find out your positive points and work it! If you can do that, you'll be one step further ahead in the game and you'll develop confidence.
totally normal!! me too all my friends get all the dudes...our time will come!
SOO normal. Especially for young girls. Doesnt mean you arent pretty. I always had best friends who got the guys and I didnt. Ever. Now, I'm the one getting the attention over them. Stuff has little to do with looks at that age...maybe you just need to grow into your skin and become confident. Once you are Okay being you, guys will flock to you. Self conciousness is a very unappealing quality.
just focus on being happy, healthy and productive and you'll meet someone at some point! whats the rush? life is full of changes. you may feel as though no guys find you attractive right now, but you'll soon realise you are wrong when you will meet someone really special.
Great post by thisissomuchfun! :)
Sometimes when I am feeling down, I like to go get my hair conditioned at the salon or maybe go get a facial or massage. You could even do all of these things at home. Sometimes you just need "me time" to reflect on things while being beautified. New clothes, a hair cut, massage, facial, all pampering things make us as girls feel better. So, pamper yourself a little and follow thisissomuchfun's advice! Ciao! ;)