Is it normal i moved out my dads and he still calls to blame me ?

Hi I was living with dad a short time after turning 18. I than moved with a pal of mine who than kicked me out. So I moved with a diffrent person but my dad still calls saying " I love you" than saying "Im sorry your always mad at me". He already kicked me out so I do not see why he keeps texing. He can not even apoligize and still blames me even though he told me to get out. I have not been able to find work and when I lived with him he got upset when I try but treats me like shit! I can not report him he works for department and they would not convict him. Do I deserve this from him! he blames me for my mom divorcing him and treats me like shit.

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  • "i love you dad but you have to change, i am changing too in different ways" he sounds desperate and either substance abusing or brain problems, you tho are young and everything will go the way you want it, just wanting the right thing for yourself will bring it, if he upsets you verbally tell him on the spot "you have to change dad i told you i cant be around you if you upset me" and mean it the world is yours

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  • coolio75650932

    allistalla i know thats you. why are your IIN questions so easy to figure out that its you? (no not normal i say punch him in the face)

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  • blaster

    Ahh well , sorry to hear it. Well if you cut him out then he knows why , why not block his calls or change your number. He needs you I think that's why he isn't leaving you alone. I'd be blocking him myself, changing my number or whatever it takes , taking a year or two out .

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  • Geldsmaggen

    Next time be frank. Say "I'm not mad at you, that's why I haven't been calling, you must be mad at me clearly because you always call me sounding upset. What's wrong?"

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  • blaster

    Sorry about your situation. That's so unfair and cruel of him. I'm not sure what the answer is I do know that you need to hold firm within yourself about who you are though and always remember that this is not you , it's your dad.
    Maybe if one day you can find the strength to just tell him it's him , his bs . and your not taking it anymore or your cutting him off , he might wake up to himself.
    Atleast then if you do cut him off , he knows the solution and the reason , and that it's up to him from there to wake up to himself or lose you.
    Maybe even write him a letter about it if it's too hard to confront , then cut him off.
    Just thoughts , good luck anyway.

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    • I told him the truth and than he kicked me out than my freind kicked me out since I couldnt pay them to stay. Now im with someone else and now they are letting me stay with them and my dad is still fighting with me.

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  • DollyBoots

    Wolf??

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    Perhaps you need to consider blocking him for a while.

    I know it's your Dad but if he's only trying to text you to pick fights, perhaps now's a time for a break.

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    • VioletTrees

      I agree. Either block him or change your phone number.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    This sounds like my mom with my sister. She blames my sister for every loss in. her life

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  • BigScaryRooster

    Your father needs to grow up. His issue isn't with you and yet he's blaming you. Change your number and cut all ties with him.

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    • I only stayed that long since I have pets and he says I have to take them with me but there is no where put them.

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      • dalmationUntoyourSoul

        i know what it's like to put up with a bad situation for the sake of your pets. hang in there buddy. hope you can find a room to rent somewhere and keep your pets with you.

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  • MissyLeyneous

    Wow he has issues. The phrase "I'm sorry you're always mad at me..." is an oxymoron. He's sorry that YOU are mad at HIM?! Get real! He's acting like a big baby. Give him the cold shoulder for a while and stop responding to his needy texts. Just try to focus on getting stabilized on your own, that's all you should be worried about right now. Your number one priority should be to build you a cash nest egg, (get a very good safe), and stay away from taking out loans. All this would be after you find stable work, of course.

    He's a big boy, he should be able to handle his own issues.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Your Dad needs to either find a life, another woman, or some combination of the two because he obviously doesn't have enough to do after work if he has the time to be bothering you. He sounds like a very confused man and it's possible that you're the only person who entertains his communicating of stupidities about his personal life. Tell him to make friends.

    My Dad used to do the same thing to me (except with the blame more directed towards my Mother) and I told him to take that up with his ex-wife because I'm too busy to put up with it.

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    • I told him make freinds. All he does is cry and yell I mean I have been stressed before but nothing can save him. He wants to die alone. I guess I have to just let him rot he does not care about me anymore.

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        Obviously he is very emotionally unstable. If you've already talked to him then forget it. You can't save a grown man from his problems if he's so intent on acting like a child.

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