Is it normal i make others happy at my expence?

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I always seem to hurt myself just to make others, notably friends and family, happy? I mean like emotionally, I will purposely embarrass myself just to make them laugh. I just do not care about my own feelings at all or at least as much as my friends' feelings. I even try hooking my friends up with girls I'm interested in just to see them happy even though I end up feeling depressed. I'm a guy, and I think it has to do with low self-esteem. I seem to try and live my life through them, by giving them the experiences that I want instead of enjoying them myself. is it normal that I try to make my friends and family happier than me at my own expense?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Yes, it's called people-pleasing. It's not really healthy (for you), but it's really sweet that you're trying to make other people feel good. It can take its toll on you, though, so you might want to do a little bit of Internet research and learn how to manage it.

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  • Janurary
    11 years ago

    im the same bro! dont take it too far though, always have a smile on too

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    No it's not normal. I'm the exact opposite and that is not normal too. It's quite difficult to strike the right balance but I still think that one should think of oneself first then of other people. I always say that to be happy one has to be a little selfish.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    You may want to try and stop that. I always used to put others happiness ahead of my own and it made me miserable. Now I just don't give a shit about most people. I'm slightly happier for that. The ones I do care about are frikkin lucky.

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  • michaels4p5
    11 years ago

    yes thats normal i try to do the same.

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