Is it normal i'm upset my sister didn't tell me about heart attack?

My sister has just told me via facebook that she had a heart attack (I think last year) and had a stent inserted. I'm flabbergasted that she or her partner didn't let me know.

We've never been really close and she has been unsupportive of me in the past when I've been in crisis. When I had a heart attack 5 years ago my daughter let her know straight away and all she said was "Oh well, I'm just getting ready to go away for the weekend" and never contacted me subsequently to check how I was or whether I was even still alive.

I feel now as if I don't have a sister: why bother with someone like that? To be clear, we're the only ones left from our immediate family as both our parents and our brother are dead.

I'm feeling really sad but also angry and I guess I'll get over it in time, but am I over-reacting? Is it normal for someone to not let their closest relative know when they're seriously ill?

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  • NormaLeeSane

    There is a reason your sister remains emotionally unavailable to you - you just don't know what it is. Perhaps you should consider trying to contact her to discuss your relationship with her. There may be some resentment she's harboring over things you've forgotten about completely. Maybe you were only peripherally involved at the time, or maybe you were at the center of her emotional hurricane - who knows unless you ask her? I'll give you an example out of my own family. When I was younger and had two young children at home, I did daycare during the day, and went to school at nights. Every moment that I wasn't sleeping or taking care of kids (my own or others), was spent studying. I was busy - very busy. Well,one year on my wedding anniversary, my mother called me up and tried to guilt me into watching my sister's children so she could go to some utterly frivolous thing - some sort of scrapbooking event or some such nonsense. I had enough stress in my life, thank you - AND IT WAS MY GODDAMNED ANNIVERSARY, FOR CRISSAKES! This is only one example out of many, but my family has typically demonstrated zero respect for my time or whatever I had going on in my life, and so, as a result, I eventually distanced myself from them to where I now see or talk to them very little. I don't call them and ask for their help, and I appreciate it if they don't do that to me. To be fair, it was more my mother than my sister in that particular situation, but I still resent my sister for getting our mother to do what she did (whether or not that was intentional on my sister's part - I really don't know). In my experience, families are toxic as hell, and the less I have to do with them, the better.

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  • Dreamsao

    Stop reposting this. I seriously responded before but now you're just spamming.

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    • Ellenna

      What are you talking about? This is the only time I've posted this question

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