Is it normal i'm upset my sister didn't tell me about heart attack?

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My sister has just told me via facebook that she had a heart attack (I think last year) and had a stent inserted. I'm flabbergasted that she or her partner didn't let me know.

We've never been really close and she has been unsupportive of me in the past when I've been in crisis. When I had a heart attack 5 years ago my daughter let her know straight away and all she said was "Oh well, I'm just getting ready to go away for the weekend" and never contacted me subsequently to check how I was or whether I was even still alive.

I feel now as if I don't have a sister: why bother with someone like that? To be clear, we're the only ones left from our immediate family as both our parents and our brother are dead.

I'm feeling really sad but also angry and I guess I'll get over it in time, but am I over-reacting? Is it normal for someone to not let their closest relative know when they're seriously ill?

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  • Dreamsao
    7 years ago

    You have to weigh the pros and cons. Pros to not speaking to your sister:

    - She can't deceive you or hurt you.
    - You don't have to put anymore effort into your relationship with her.
    - You get revenge by cutting her off.

    Cons:

    - You lose the only family you have left.
    - You lose hope of ever being close to her again.
    - You miss her initially.
    - You hurt her if she still cares about you even the tiniest bit.

    The choice is yours. Make sure you choose wisely.

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    • |CorruptedGem
      7 years ago

      what was your previous account name here

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      • Dreamsao
        7 years ago

        Disfunkshunal. From years ago. I'm not new even though I haven't run into you until recently. I'm probably one of the people who have stayed the longest.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I know you're hurt, but why is this a surprise to you?

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  • Flutist_101
    7 years ago

    Honestly I feel like no matter how it is between you guys you should be aware of that happening especially if you guys have already lost immediate family.

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