Is it normal i'm uncomfortable with the way my sister dresses?

I don't want to call her names but it's hard not to think of the way she dresses as slutty. Almost everything I've seen her wear has made me uncomfortable. If she's feeling modest, she'll wear a spaghetti strap shirt or tube top. But she seems to prefer see through mesh shirts and fishnet tops, which defeats the purpose of wearing shirts in the first place because it's not even hiding what's under them. The places she buys clothes from calls it club wear but she wears it almost all the time. For bottoms she wears spandex and short shorts. I'll see her in regular pants instead if I'm lucky. If she has to be formal, she wears dresses that are the absolute shortest length they can be while still being considered dresses. The only dress she has that isn't super short has a side cut that goes all the way up to her waist. If there won't be family, she'll wear a dress with a plunging neck line. One dress of hers I've seen isn't a dress so much as what looks like a ribbon that wraps around her neck and drapes over her boobs and leaves the rest of her upper body uncovered.

It breaks my heart that this is the way she wants to get attention. I don't feel like I have the right to ask her to change, but it bothers me that everyone she walks by on the street gets an eyeful of her. It's sad to see her come home dressed like that and think that's how everyone saw her. It makes me awkward too. Once I was with some friends and she was picking me up. She came and got out of the car to get a drink before taking me home, I said that's my ride. A friend said wow, looks like someone's getting lucky tonight. And I said actually that's my sister. He looked surprised. Then he said I'm lucky I have a sister who shows herself off and dresses confidently like that. I said no, I'm really not but maybe my friends are. He apologized and admitted that was a messed up thing to say. She got her drink, came to me greeted me with a hug and said lets go. I went to her car with her and not all of my friends overheard the conversation I had with my friend because some were giving me a "hey, looks like someone's about to get laid" look. I think you know what I mean. They assumed because of how she dresses that she was doing it for me and to be fair that is a normal assumption. But it's her choice how she dresses and even though I want her to dress differently I don't think I can tell her to stop. I don't want her to feel like I'm repressing her or thinking of her in a sexual way, so I just pretend I don't see anything wrong with the way she dresses.

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Comments ( 19 )
  • jamesmitchell29486

    Tell her u think she's hot u might get a wham bam thank u sis or she'll change it's a win win either u get pussy or a more modest sister either way you win best of luck to you.

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  • Justsomejerk

    Sandwich method...

    Good comment: Sis, you know how cool/funny/smart/awesome I think you are,

    Bad comment: but some times I think people might miss that and just see you as a piece of meat.

    Good comment: I just care about you and want people to see you as I see you.

    Substitute your own obviously but you get the idea.

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    • Tehboss

      No that's just wrong

      just start hitting on her ;D if she feels unconfortable and calls you on it say that's how i feel if she has hot steamy sex = profit ?

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      This.

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  • a brother can say anything from the heart, if it hurts her feelings so be it , she will forgive u and hopefully take yr advice , its a worry

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    Well I don't dress like that all the time, but if I do I'm not doing it for attention, I'm doing it because I just don't give a rat's ass. How do you know she's doing it for attention?

    I can understand to an extent, but your ideas of morality and sluttyness are your own and don't apply to other individuals who have different tastes, as your sister apparently does. It's probably a lot of that brother insticnt kicking in, you're worried about the male attention she receives and of course you don't want anything to happen to her, and don't want your friend disrespecting her.

    But honestly the way I see it, if you're gonna lose all respect for a person just because they're more comfortable with their body or have a different aesthetic taste than you, there's probably some issues of your own you need to address. I try every day to look at whole people, not to judge based on simply one aspect of their appearance or personality.

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    • xkenan

      Well said, shade_ilmaendu. Very sensible words and absolutely right, excellent post. Such a shame that you have been answered by such a complete moron - impolite, foul mouthed and stupid in her comments.

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      • shade_ilmaendu

        They walk among us.... ;P

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    • curiouskate101

      wtf? covering up your body has nothing to do with being confrontable with it. its called having fucken respect for yourself you should try it sometime? when a girl wants to dress sexy its because she wants to feel sexy i understand that but theres a fine line between slutty and sexy. halter tops short skirts = sexy fishnet top spandex short shorts slutty. we live in a judgmental society. if she dresses like that shes not gonna find a man that wants her more than a night. guys like girls with value. if your flanting your tittes everywhere that's not valuable its cheap. its like Walmart jeans vs designer you have to pay more for it to get that value. for a girl thats showing everything they already get to see it for free vs a girl that you have to woe her first. learn the fucken difference i could go on and on but ill stop now cuz i think you get the point.

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      • shade_ilmaendu

        I think you're rather narrow minded and judgemental yourself. Good day to you. :)

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        • curiouskate101

          Lmfao I didn't say you we're narrow minded or judgemental? Stop talking drugs. I'm not judgemental I just know your stupid. And what I said was true. If you wanna make excuses so you can keep dressing like a slut go ahead. I'm sure you get a lot of respect and your love life is grand (y).

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          • xkenan

            Not judgemental? You should see a doctor about your delusions or get off whatever drug you are on.

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            • curiouskate101

              stfu dumb fuck this conversation was done a long time ago. i dont take drugs just cuz i think a certain way. its my beliefs so go find something better to do cuz im not gonna even look if you reply back

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          • shade_ilmaendu

            I love this website so much. Such friendly and kind people. :)

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            • curiouskate101

              Me too people here are so smart! And sane and are successful at life! :)

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  • She should not be dressing this way, when women fought for equal right back in the day, I'm sure dressing like a whore wasn't on their minds. I would find that very un-attractive, but then again I'm attracted to dignity and class.

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  • curiouskate101

    tell her straight up that she dresses inappropriate. its your job as a sister to tell her those things because if you don't who will? tell her modesty is beauty and people judge you on those first impressions. she could be a smart sweet innocent girl and just from the way she dresses people would think shes a free prosatute slutty bitch. they dont know her yes but since they dont know her there just gonna base her on the way she dresses. chances are people are gonna use her shes not gonna find love because guys are just gonna treat her like a piece of meat. if she doesnt respect herself no one will

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  • bristexai

    Does she open her legs for everyone too?

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  • lizieralizard

    just tell her she doesnt need to dress like that to b noticed. She'll think thats sweet

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