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I used to be able to talk to people quite well but know I can't, I'm afraid to put my hand up in a lecture I don't even know what of! This boy always says hello to me and I reply with a weak hi, barely even hearable.
i think that's a good plot for a porn movie. shy girl passes by guy ho says hello she says a weak hi proceed to gangbang :)
Same here. Shyness seems to be a chronic condition for me. In college, I got over it for a while and learned to socialize with people comfortably, but then I regressed and became even shyer than I was before. I don't try to start conversations with people, because I assume they don't want to talk to me anyway. It sounds as if you also lack confidence in yourself. Unfortunately, I have no advice to offer because all the typical confidence-building exercises have not worked for me. Maybe confidence is something you have to be born with, I don't know. But at least we can know that we are not alone in our shyness.
I'm like that too. I used to be very talkative, but I've noticed that as I'm getting older, im becoming more and more aware of my personal backdrops. Insecurities set in, and now I've become more shy.
I think what's happening, is your starting to think too much now. Just be confident, and don't let the little things worry you.
yeah me too im like really observant but I don't say much unless Im asked a question or if its relevant, but even then im quite. But being quiet lets me listen to everything :D
has it a perks I guess but a lot more cons
funny cause im the opposite. mostly cause I have to talk and interact with customers everyday and confidence is key
Actually, I work with customers too! But I've just become very awkward over the past year or so. I think it's because I don't feel comfortable there (at my job) anymore. In the beginning, I never had to force myself to be confident. I already had it. I had the confidence. But now, I feel like I'm kind of a bit of an awkward turtle there. :/
Best way to stop feeling shy is to put yourself in the situation where you feel shy again and again and talk more and eventually the shyness will go away !
im sort of trying this, I get quite shy around this boy but im trying to talk to him more to let my shyness clear and I guess you could say there was a couple improvements
Man, it sounds easy by saying, but not by doing. I know that the only way to beat your fears is by facing them, but guess what? in this kind of fears that the OP mentioned here you have to face it in front of people, so if anything went wrong, everybody would notice it. I have the same problem, or maybe worst, that I don't want to talk to anyone because I don't want them to know I'm a shy person.
I am an extravert, I am not shy save for rare situations. Take it from me, if you're shy because you're afraid of humiliation, don't be. I don't analyze whether or not you paid complete eye contact, your tone of voice, etc. And if I do find you annoying, unless you're a blatant asshole, doubtful I'll remember for longer than 10 minutes.
Being shy is usually a byproduct of being self conscious. You're your biggest critic. Trust me when I say that only the prickliest of pricks would analyze you as much as you do.
Shy people are so sweet when you get to know them. Give people a chance to like you foy who you are. I like EMINEM007's suggestion; it's called desensitization.
I have been shy since I was a child, and still shy as a young adult. Shyness is not a bad thing, but it can be difficult to deal with at times when you need to be heard. A portion of shyness is genetic, and a lot of it is most likely due to self-consciousness. For me, it is both. I still cannot even look at guys and talk to them as well as I talk to other girls.
That guy seems nice, so maybe you can try taking baby steps and greet him first one day. Then when you feel comfortable, you can take another step and ask him how he is doing or something related to the class like, "so how do you think you did on that test?" Also, if you are not comfortable asking questions during lecture, you can always ask your teacher when no one is around or through email; I do this a lot. I know it is hard, but keep trying :)
Well about how long have you turned into this shy, unapproachable person? If you're still in school, which you probably are, have you changed teachers? Is it a certain class you're afraid to speak or all of them? You might just feel pressured, or your teacher may be a little hard on you. Maybe it's not the best school. I'm not saying you should move, but try spending a day trying to pay attention to the times you can't speak, and you may get a hint of why you feel this way. Your school may not be making you feel comfortable. And as for the boy, you might just feel strange or shy because he's not a close friend. The only advice I have on that is, be confident. He's not trying to hurt you. He may even like you as a friend or even more! But you won't know this until you give him a chance. Best of luck to ye! :))
i know people like you, what you really need is a bottle of jim beam 40%, n wear a mini skirt, trust me u will be more confident
This also happens to me. My relatives tell my mother that it may be brain damage or I am not very comfortable speaking to some people. The only people whom I talk to are my friends, parents, cousins, gradparents, and my sister