Is it normal i'm still grieving?

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Me and my ex boyfriend have parted ways for over 2 months now, & I'm still not over him. I know, basic heartbreak shit. But what gets me is I don't want to be around anyone, EVER. I just want to sit in my room all day and cry, sometimes sleep. I still sleep with his jacket, & shouldn't because he's made it clear he's moved on & is dating the very same girl he cheated on me with. I want to move on, but simply can't; I've tried! I barely eat, & when I get an appetite it's hard to stomach more than a seldom amount. I can't seem to be happy, & am getting worried due to always finding myself thinking of death or living the "edge" life will make me happier or solve my problem. I'm so unhappy, & tired of being down & stressed. He is embedded in my mind, it feels. I'm not even safe to go to sleep, for every night since our breakup my dreams have starred him. Worse part of it all is he's leading me on! He tells me he still loves me & be patient, that he never wanted this to happen. This isn't me feeling sorry for myself, it's me venting this hollow feeling I have inside; I actually feel like my heart is truly hurting, no joke. IIN?

Keep in touch with him, he'll come around. 2
Drop him like a bad habit. 17
Better to have love & lost than to have never loved at all. 2
Yes, happens all the time. 12
No, you're being over dramatic. 11
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  • Isabella80s
    11 years ago

    Sounds like this guy is wantng to keep his options open... as in, if it doesn't work out with this new girl, he can come back to you. It's a bit of a mind f*** him keep saying he still loves you! (You do mean that happens in reality rather than in the dreams, right?) If it is in reality it's really not fair of him. Also, two months isn't a very long time - you need more time than that to fully get over someone. That hollow feeling you describe is horrible and feels like it's never going to go away! However, it will and your life is yours, not his. At the moment he's sort of indirectly controlling your life - take it back (when you're ready to.)

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    • $hortyD%Wop!
      11 years ago

      That's pretty much what he intended, was to come back if him & the girl didn't work . They've dated once before, & she left him cause he went to jail instead of sticking by his side . Now he makes so much money he can start a bank, so of course she's eating it up . & no, I was referring to him still saying i love you to reality, but dreams too . And his control is definitely not indirect, he controlled it while we were together, as well . Never got to go anywhere, never got to text other guys, couldn't do shit without his consent .

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      • Isabella80s
        11 years ago

        That's just not on at all - are you really gonna let someone treat you like that? Sorry but he doesn't sound like a good guy and I don't think you'd be happy long term if you were with him. You're a bad place right now but it WILL get better. You can get around this and I think you know what your best option is. Also, I agree with DarkBlue below! : )

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  • DarkBlue
    11 years ago

    heartbreak is horrible :( But yeah, like Isabella said here, it's only been two months..sometimes it take years! So, you don't have to push yourself..don't convince yourself you're okay when you're not..take your time to grieve..
    Yet at the same time, I suggest you stay away from him..I know it's hard when we feel so needy about someone, yet you know he's leading you on..keep thinking of the pain this whole thing is causing you, it will encourage you to move forward somehow..and don't be frustrated if it takes longer than you thought..

    You're not alone, take courage from that too

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    • $hortyD%Wop!
      11 years ago

      I do tend to think of the pain often just so I won't take him back if he comes or chase after him, but the love I have for him overrides it & makes still want him .

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Meet someone new, it sorts everything out. TRUST ME YOUNG PADAWAN!!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    It's unhealthy you should try masturbating.

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    • Jeb4691
      11 years ago

      I've found all your comments extremely unhelpful and rude. Why don't YOU go masturbate instead of making people that already feel extremely down worse. -.-

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      • $hortyD%Wop!
        11 years ago

        He probably does, fuckin nympho .

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        Masturbating Helps me get through tough times.

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        • $hortyD%Wop!
          11 years ago

          I'm convinced it's what gets you through ALL your time .

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        • Jeb4691
          11 years ago

          That explains a lot.

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          • Terence_the_viking
            11 years ago

            Great so now you know.

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