Is it normal i'm so jealous? living with boyfriend and best friend

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About a month and a half ago, I moved in with my boyfriend and best friend. We moved in together for money reasons, although I really wanted it to be just me and him. I was kind of worried about the jealousy, especially since before we got together he was always saying how hot and gorgeous she was.
Anyway, the jealousy started maybe a week after we moved in.
First instance:
He dropped me off at my moms and I was having a really bad time and my mom was ignoring me and I started feeling depressed so I asked him to pick me up a few hours later and he said, "Well, I'm going to be a little late because I'm decorating the house with Maddi." (Maddi's my roommate and best friend.)
Later that night I had some friends over and my friend Jade pulled me aside and said, "Have you noticed how he's been staring at her all night?"
and from then on, it escalated.
Other examples: He didn't want to drive me to get chicken breast so I could cook dinner FOR HIM but he drove the same distance to buy her iced coffee.
He told me he couldn't spend any more money on me and then bought her a bottle of wine.
The three of us were having a discussion and she said some really dumb fact and I told her it wasn't true, but Brian sided with her and made me look dumb. The next day I asked him if what she said was actually true and he said he had no idea.
There are a few more similar situations but I won't list everything.
As time progresses the feelings have gotten worse.
I am not used to feeling so jealous. I've never felt this way about any guy before.
Most of it revolves around the roommate though. I've never even been jealous of her, never thought she was much prettier or cooler than me or anything, and I've been pretty confident for the past few years.
Anyway. Now everything sets me off. The other night we were all hanging out and he was blatantly staring at her all night.
Everytime he says her name, and he isn't saying something mean about her, I feel this searing jealousy and anger just completely overwhelming my body.
IS IT NORMAL!?
what do I do? :(

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  • Shelbs
    10 years ago

    Well maybe you should have a talk with your boyfriend.

    It could be the way you wrote it, but it sounds as if he is doing things for her that he isn't doing for you. If that's the case then that needs to change.

    If talking to your boyfriend doesn't improve things then I would suggest you look at your friend. What is she doing that makes him think he can do things for her instead of you?

    The iced coffee example is what hit me the most. Did she really ask him to get her iced coffee? Really? What kind of friend asks her friends boyfriend to get her coffee? Girl, get that on your own or get your own boyfriend.

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  • Happy_PoopSmear
    10 years ago

    Hey this is Maddi, he's been fucking me since before we all moved in together, you FUCKING LOSER!

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Smh...why do you surround yourself with jerks when there are so many respectable people in the world? If you've voiced your opinion on the matter (to both of them) and they continue to disrespect you kick 'em to the curb. Also, your other friends may be perpetuating this just to cause drama. I'd rather have no friends/no bf than bad ones.

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    • Agirlsbestfriend.
      10 years ago

      you'll get what your given and no more.

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.
    10 years ago

    You should cook them a dinner like stew or soup and you soak tampons in it (used). that will teach them because he is probably going to impregnate her and choking on your mestrual blood will be a fun lesson for them both.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    What does your best friend think of all of this?

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  • spasm
    10 years ago

    It's normal to be jealous, I mean that's human nature but I think that it only becomes a problem when you let it overcome you which means that you're not in control anymore which sounds like where ur at. So it seems like that you have become the jealously which isn't who you truly are just a mind made up emotion that drives you crazy. Remember that even though u are hating your best friend that you think 'makes' you feel a certain way ( jealous in this case), later on it could be someone else because if you don't sort out your jealousy issues then it will always be there no matter what. I honestly think you should move out with your bf and get some space to sort out your feelings or if he is being a dick and being overly nice to your friend tell him that it's not fair the way he treats you and then provide examples like u have done on your post. I hope you and your friend don't fall out though because if she is a true friend then I think you wouldn't want to loose that person just because u got jealous. Jealously is an evil feeling that can tear people apart, trust me I know!

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