Is it normal i'm so jealous?

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Hi I'm 19 & I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years.
Our relationship is happy and great.
But I get so jealous when there's another female around that's prettier than me.
I'm very self-hated, I hate my looks & everything about me.
He doesn't look at these girls or even Porn on the Internet, he isn't like most guys. He knows I don't believe in looking at Porn while in a relationship especially one this long & committed. And he's completely fine with that (We've made videos together & I sent his pictures & videos of myself.)
He's good he doesn't do these things, Im a good girlfriend I do lots for him, and I spoil him most days.
Everything is so perfect but I can never come to love myself, or my body.
I'm scared he will leave someday & I've invested so much of my life & time into this.
I'm also afraid he will find someone else with a better body than me, and I cant help to think this way. I'm not usually a negative person, I have dreams of these things happening all the time.
Is this normal for someone who's not confident about their appearance??

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  • you_go_glen_coco
    7 years ago

    It is normal that you are not comfortable with your appearance. An overwhelming majority of the world's population has that same problem. That's why the makeup industry, plastic surgery and other cosmetic sciences are doing so well. They love making everybody feel like the way they look is not "good enough".
    Secretly, everybody wants to be wanted. To feel attractive and confident. To have a rocking body and no wrinkles. Long, luscious lashes. To have people say: "Maybe she's born with it. Maybe it's Maybeline."

    You have an inferiority complex and it's not your fault.

    You can't let this run rampant over you, though. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to your boyfriend who, obviously, loves you and cherishes you.

    If you let your insecurities consume you, it will eventually win and it might even cost you your relationship. At some point your boyfriend will start to become agitated with constantly reinforcing and assuring you.

    Just keep in mind that he loves you and that he chose to be with you. So surely you have something pretty darn special about you. Figure it out and enhance that aspect. Let it overpower all the bad thoughts you have.

    Win this.

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    • PrincessJess1
      7 years ago

      You just made my day :(

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  • ddrftw
    7 years ago

    Low self-esteem is unattractive. You're always comparing yourself to others and that's a terrible trait to have. If you have no confidence in your appearance, then you should work on it. I know it's easier said than done, but do you really want to go on your whole life comparing yourself to other people? I sure don't.

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    • PrincessJess1
      7 years ago

      I do, I wear make up to make myself feel better about myself, I dress nicely but sexy, not in a trashy way. But I don't see a point anymore because I don't get a compliment, maybe once a month or less my partner will say I look nice. But idk anymore.

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      • ddrftw
        7 years ago

        You can't be that bad looking if he is still with you. You should have more confidence in yourself and there's absolutely no reason you should ever have to compare yourself to someone else even if he happens to be friends or talk to a girl who is more prettier. If any guy really loves you, he'll love you for who you are inside and out.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    7 years ago

    sounds like a self fullfillin prophecy

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