Is it normal i'm so bothered by this?

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So, my boyfriend of over a year were hanging out one day everything was fine but then i asked him if i could use his computer to send a messege to a friend through facebook, since she didnt have a phone. Now, we have never been the type of couple to obsess over eachothers facebook accounts or phones. I never wanted to be that type, because I know that damages relationships, but against my wishes he took the computer and started checking my inbox. He found most of my conversations were from girls and only two (most recent) were friends(guys) that were telling me about how they were doing (no flirtation at all) it was actually about rapping. I felt like I would find nothing either so I went thorugh his inbox and got really bothered by a conversation he was having with this one girl two months after we got together- Flirting& Things like number exchanges. Not only does this bother me but it bothers me that he knows who tried talking to me when we got together b/c they only happened through comments on facebook, also about old numbers that i didnt delete but even before we got together didnt use and he patronized me for months! I honestly see it as hipocracy. Like he was over there getting numbers yet still has the balls to bully me over numbers I didnt delete or guys trying who talk to me even if I didnt respond to their flirtation. I'm just shoked because for the things that he worried about I really didnt expect him to have this on him, I at the very least expected him to tell me something like "yea I used to talk to this one chick at the beginning because I didnt know how long this would last" Like I did! I was always honest, told him if I did do something wrong due to the fact it was the beginning of our relationship, I never gave out my number nor did i ask any guy for his- I deffenitely wasnt prepared to just find out about it like that. The fact that he just didnt tell me about it feels like he knew it was something really wrong. We're fine now it did cause a bit of an argument but we're oky we keep promising eachother honsety and fidelity but I cant help to keep thinking about it. Am I wrong?

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  • MissyLeyneous
    11 years ago

    Yes you're right to be bothered by his actions and yes he is being hypocritical. I'd give him a second chance as long as he is treating you decently. For a relationship to work long-time, you have to keep secrets to an absolute minimum.

    However, if you aren't interested in long-time, serious relationships, then you have nothing to worry about. If he were to leave you over something stupid like flirting over the internet, then you're better off without him anyway.

    You seem to have high morals, try to keep them like that sweetie, we need more like you in the world.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Most people who are jealous are jealous because theyre the ones who are up to something so they think everyone else is up to the same things they are.
    Anyone who goes through someones phone and email obviously has a serious problem and should not be in a relationship at all.
    If you can not trust your partner you shouldnt be with them.

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  • Fabulous
    11 years ago

    Wenis a rubbery chicken

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    So he's a jealous hypocrite, I've yet to meet someone who isn't.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    Text waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllllll
    *power Sharts*

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    What did you do that was "wrong" at the beginning of the relationship that you had to tell him about?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      The same thing, I also talked to other guys for the first few week we were going out, the difference is that I told him about it when things between us started getting serious-he never told me about the girls he would talk to. Thats my issue, the fact I just found out about it-.-and how he keppt throwing it in my face like if he didnt do the same shit.

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  • Gravy
    11 years ago

    Could be a sign he is social media flirting and therefore has a natural weariness or distrust in the same. I was suspicious of signs from a harlet and discovered she was fucking someone else. Not saying he is playing. I don't care about these things anymore.

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  • NiceKitty
    11 years ago

    You need a slice of get the heck over it!

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