Is it normal i'm slowly falling for my student?

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Well, let's get a few points clear; I'm a young highschool teacher, nearing my 24th birthday, and well, most of my students are anywhere between 14-19.. To be honest, I'm not decent(good) looking guy, nice frame, well educated and well, put it blunt, I know I'm sexy, I work for it..

Thing is, at the beginning of this year I started my teaching career and hell, I'm the only 'young' teacher in there, second next to me is a 29 year old decent guy.

Since I was a teen not so long ago, I'm quite the easy-going, cool and friendly kind of teacher we would all love to have had at school..Well, a few of my students have a crush on me, I can tell (I can also hear!), but lately, there's one of them quite puzzling me..You know, that perfect little girl(16), always working hard in class just to please me, complimenting me anytime, asking for a time out when she's in another class to peep on me teaching others and smile sweetly when I'd see her..

Problem is, yesterday, something really weird happened; taking the stairs, we met (I'm totally sure she did it on purpose), and we talked our way down..Each time i look at her and talk, I see those sweet wide-opened eyes staring at me, with a smile, like when you see an icecream as a kiddo..but well, I gotta admit, I kinda like it knowing I please her..

About me, I'm in a complicated relationship with my gf(or ex, I dunno), for the past 4 years, she cheated on me with one of her colleagues (which she sees everyday at work till date, and knowing guy loves her), we broke up, we were friends again, I supported her coz she was feeling horrible about it all (it devastated me, but I kept my strength and stayed there for her), and some times back, she told me she fell for me once again, but we're not together, though we're planning to be together since both our sets of parents really enjoy our couple and would like to see us make it..

Honestly, it crossed my mind letting loose and 'siding' with my student instead, but well, to be blunt, there's not a chance in the world we end up making it coz my parents would totally be destroyed seeing me choose someone else and also, my job is really important to me, so there's no way I sacrifice it..(btw, no1 knows about the cheating thingie of my, uh..gf!).

Ummm, been writing a lot already, so to shorten it: Is it normal to kinda feel attracted to my 16yo student totally knowing its a jailbait+sacking+parents ain't ever gonna accept that+ my 'gf' will be morally broken if I dump her..?

Sometimes, even the toughest day seem bearable knowing I'll sooner or later meet up with that student and her smile and mesmerized look gonna fix it all..pffff, guess I'm in deep trouble, right?

Your comments please, and advices most welcome..!

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  • MissyLeyneous
    11 years ago

    First of all, realize your biggest danger:

    She IS, legally, a minor! She's jailbait... You'd lose your job, your girlfriend (if you still want her), your parents trust... and you'd go to JAIL.

    So, the ultimate answer is, yes, it's normal, it happens all of the time, and you're still really young... and NO don't go for her! Keep your distance if you must! If she insists, or gets even flirty-er you may have to report her to get her to stop, even though you do like her as a student.

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  • Fartyr
    11 years ago

    Normal to be attracted. It's an abuse of power to act on it though and I'm sure it would work since she's young and impressionable, but what you'd do to her psycho-socially and developmentally would be life-altering and bad.

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Normal to be attracted, not to act on it. Doing so will only ruin your career, and cause you legal problems. Get yourself anew girl your own age, one that respects you.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    Isn't it enough that she brightens your day? My advice would be for you to leave it at that, she is simply too young and the consequences too costly. What you have with her now is a beautiful thing, it helps you to enjoy your occupation. Don't be greedy for anything more.

    I'm a 29 year old male and I work with a 17 year old and I'm quite attracted to her but I have to keep reminding myself that it is only lust, if I pursued her I would find the generation gap is too wide and the varying degrees of life experience would come out in full contrast, she would still be quite naive to alot of things in life. All it would be, would be a fling. I think your situation may be quite similar.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You sound like my band teacher who banged his student--while married--and then divorced and got married to the little slut. My boyfriend had a history teacher who banged his 16 year old student and got her knocked up.

    "perfect little girl(16), always working hard in class just to please me, complimenting me anytime, asking for a time out when she's in another class to peep on me teaching others and smile sweetly when I'd see her.."

    You're gonna fall for a little teacher's pet like that?

    I think Mr. Fabulous above this comment will be more promising than her.

    If you decide to go for the little creature, let us know how it goes.

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    • gotohell
      1 year ago

      Why little slut? Isn't he slut? Fcking others while being married.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Very normal, but if course you cannot act on it, for so many reasons! Keep your relationship professional, and if this is meant to be, maybe you both will stay in contact with each other till she is of age and out of your school, or one of you has moved on!

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  • NikkifreakinCollins
    9 years ago

    I'm also a teacher, and i know what you are goung through. I teach mathematics in England. What do you teach?

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  • funnymoments
    10 years ago

    if she likes you back you will be the happiest guy ever !! test her and see

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  • Crazymathteacher
    11 years ago

    geez, we got somewhat similar situation.... I gonna wait 4 years tho..

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  • Elite123
    11 years ago

    I sooooo know it, but honestly, I just can't get her out cleanly, I mean, I often find myself thinking of her for no reason, the way she'd talk to me, the way she'd look at me with those large 'protect me' eyes..! damn! but thanx for it all, I oh-so-know its jailbait for sure, and career-wise, I ain't risking it.. Just that, I can't seem to be 'indifferent'..!

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    • DADNSCAL
      11 years ago

      That's obsession, and you need to talk youself out of it.

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  • Fabulous
    11 years ago

    I love you too suck on my love pump

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