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I'm not a nice person anyway but I am really mean to my husband. I will go off on him and after I'm done yelling I realize how mean I was. I don't feel bad about it per se but I wish he'd stop saying and doing such stupid things so I didn't have to be so mean to him. IIN?
As the husband of an often mean wife, you should thank your lucky stars you have him. I only stay with her because I love her, and forgive the mean things she says and does to me. Someday, when I'm gone, she'll know what she had, and will probably cry for me. She was the same way with her mother, and wailed like a banshee when she died. Wake up and appreciate who you've got while you still can.
This is sad. Don't be surprised if one day you discover he's having an affair.
If a guy was doing this to his girlfriend, people would be reacting a lot differently.
You sound like a Sociopath.
If i was married to you, i would of left long ago.
you blame your anger on him???
you control your own actions. and obviously have anger issues
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if a man beats his wife. because "she says stupid comments" In our society it wouldn't be tolerated. because a man is responsible for his own actions.
think about that?
Anything, anyone says, isn't stupid. It has value. You should just be thankful he says anything at all.
I think your a little like me. Your not happy until you have had a good moan about something. Bad drivers are my favourite.
I say what you would call "stupid" things all the time. It just ends up making my girlfriend laugh.
Next to you shout or get mad at him slap him and then make him eat you out.
"Really mean" can mean different things to different people. So too can "saying and doing such stupid things".
Why don't you elaborate? In what ways are you mean to your husband, and what stupid things does he do and say that result in your wrath?
Of course any person in a real relationship can vouch that at some point we all annoy or aggravate our spouse or loved ones. I know for a fact I annoy my wife and I know she will admit that she annoys me. It would be abnormal if at some point there weren't these feelings. Because its only because we have emotions towards the situations. What is abnormal about your particular behavior(at least to me) is that you have acknowledged the fact that you are this mean to him and show no emotion towards the situation. If there is no feeling of remorse or guilt, than there is a lot more lacking from the relationship than you see. As I man ill be the first to admit we aren't the brightness and we do stupid things but in no way does that justify constantly being put down or yelled at. Wish you both the best
Almost everyone goes off every once in a while, but if you do it very often you run the risk of pushing away the ones that are closest to you! You have to ask yourself, is it worth it, will I be happier alone?
It's a shame you're not a lesbian so the pair of you could be rotten cunts to each other.
So hard that you'd end up with PTS.
Remember, you're only mean because somebody ALLOWS you to be.
Asserting that "most women are bitches" is very similar to saying that most men are assholes. Generalizations aren't impartial and it's probably best not to generalize.
I'd say that both men and women alike can sometimes be mean to their spouses without realizing it at first. We all have our trigger points that compel us to do and say stupid things in the heat of the moment, especially when the communication and understanding between you and your spouse is poor and when you or your spouse repeatedly says or does things that are pet peeves to the other.
When you realize you are doing it, try to step back, calm down and apologize to your spouse for being mean to them, even though you may still stand your ground.
it seems your husband is either a wimp or a very considerate person.
i think you should consider counselling.
Well maybe one day your husband will "wise up"(since you think he's stupid), do the smart thing and leave your screeching harpy ass! When that day comes whether he leaves you for another woman or just gets so fed up that he just plain leaves you all of his friends and family will rejoice! Then when you're all sad, lonely and feeling sorry for yourself people might be nice to your face and act like they care but behind your back they'll say, "she had it coming."
put your self in his shoes how do you think he is feeling when you are screaming and shouting at him for no reason at all, and also don't be so suprised when one day you wake up and you are on your own and that no one wants to be with you all because you are a hartless person
I honestly think this is more normal than was voted (11% at time of typing). Unfortunately every woman I know is mean to her significant other for doing stupid things, and I'm no exclusion. Some more than others, of course.
One girl I know will just outright call her boyfriend stupid and constantly yells at him and blames him for everything when only 90% of her problems are caused by him; but I kind of think he deserves it because he smokes crack and lies and steals. I know a lesbian who makes fun of her girlfriend, but never yells (although I think the gf yells at her). I know another couple and the woman often shoots the guy down for having fun and acting immature. My sister has always been very demanding in a relationship.BUT, these women are good at heart, which I'm sure is why they aren't single for life.
And I can most definitely be mean when my bf puts pressure on me to put my half into the relationship AND make up for his shortcomings and, afterwards, tells me what more I need to be doing. Sometimes I yell, sometimes I inadvertently make him look bad in front of his family (which I really, really feel bad about). We do try to work through our problems though. Most of the time we understand each other perfectly, but with some things... it's like trying to build the tower of Babel together [DOES NOT COMPUTE].
I'm not saying this is right or acceptable, but, on behalf of the people in the real world, it IS normal...especially is south U.S.
That is horrible. I can understand occasionally meanness that has strong logic behind it but you aren't sorry and you think he acts stupid. You should thankful that he still around deal with you. Or should he be pitied for staying? Either way, you should learn how to be more loving to him. He doesn't deserve to be verbally and emotionally abused.