Is it normal i'm ready to give up everything for...

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I always thought I'd be alone for my whole life. I never imagined finding a girl I loved, or having a family of my own. So, I dedicated my life to doing the things that make me the happiest; drawing, writing, and philosophy. Art. I figured this would be the best way to spend my life alone. (I've always dreaded the thought of settling down with a family because it seemed like a waste of a valuable lifetime.)

But... now I feel like I could trade up all of my life goals to start a family with my girlfriend, the love of my life. She has always wanted to, and I honestly think she'd make a perfect mother and wife. I could get a steady job and take on responsibilities as a father. I would just love to spend my life with her and a child of ours, even if it means leaving behind everything I've ever hoped for in life. I know my family would be disappointed in me for such a decision; they'd much rather see me excel in a field that I have a passion for. But, I'm starting to think that my passion for her is stronger, although it is much more reckless.

So, is it normal to feel this way? Or am I just stark raving mad?

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Based on 34 votes (26 yes)
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  • blaster
    12 years ago

    I was an artist/painter for a fair while myself . But I guess I traded up or out whatever , not for a family but for a real life and some money in my pocket , just for once .
    I think I'm glad I did , I'm sure as hell happy about not having to deal with the stupid f'n artworld anymore. It's so refreshing to be apart of the real world/real people again . Unreal not to have money stresses anymore too.

    If it's any help I looked at it this way , I hated being broke and having nothing but in just 3 yrs I now own a place of my own and I'm getting ahead - feels f'n fantastic.
    Me I don't reckon art is worth your life m, I was extremely good at it too . I was even told I would be a great but meanwhile I had nothing and the people telling me that had a family , credit cards , bank accounts , nice cars and a home over their heads so you know .
    It's the head work too , I don't miss that.
    I've thought right through if I can get on my feet and make something , maybe later I'll be in a better position to return to my art but now , I really don't think I wanna go back to that world.
    For what it's worth !

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  • Hubob
    12 years ago

    All you need is love, man

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    Mate, it's not recklessness. You are in love and priorities have changed. It doesn't mean you still cannot pursue the things you love; you might just have to pursue them in a different way. Like teaching, or writing a book or something whilst still being a dad and husband and provider.

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    Don't throw away your dreams for a chick, dude.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      She's not a chick, she's my love.

      But, I'll be careful not to do anything too drastic. I was just wondering if it was normal to feel this way.

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  • solidman
    12 years ago

    I think your doing the right thing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You can't survive on love, and sadly, you would have to work a lot, so it wouldn't be as if you spend all day every day with them.
    You have to do what you want, meet the dreams you want to meet, then focus on a life with someone, because you never know if one day your partner just ends the relationship.

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  • SLAYERoftheWICKED
    12 years ago

    just do both

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    It sounds like you love this girl and want to be with her. However, your family is holding you back. Ultimately it is your life and only you can decide how it will go. Your family has to accept your decisions whether they want to or not.

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  • truercheese
    12 years ago

    Your family might be a little bit confused at first, but I bet they wouldn't be really disappointed. They will want to see you happy, no matter what you choose in life. They will understand that your opinion changed. You can try asking your parents if they ever had other plans when they were younger and if they ended up changing their mind. Chances are, they probably did!

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